Rupert

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I need help as I'm really struggling to move past this. We called our son Rupert as it was my husbands favourite name. It took me a while to come round to it, as I thought it was a bit 'out there' - he is our second child. To me it's quite an upper class, very English name, and I didn't realise until recently that it was a slang term for a bit of a useless army officer 😟. I am from a very working class Irish background, my husband is English and we live in England. I have always wanted to go with my Grandads name if I ever had a son, but my husband didn't think it quite worked with our surname and I was really sad about it. So, as my husband really loved Rupert, we went with it. When we announced the name, a few people laughed about it and it made me feel really self conscious about it. I always assumed we would have another child, and then I could have a name that I loved, but it wasn't until my son was a few months old, with the name firmly embedded that my husband made it very clear that he didn't want any more children. Anyway, cut to five years later, and I very much resent my husband for both of these things and I am finding it really hard to get past them. My son is the most precious thing in the world to me, and I hate that I am self conscious about his name. To be clear, I am very conscious of not projecting any of this on to my son and making him feel anything other than love for his own name.

I agree @JohnMiddleNameRedactedSwanson

I love the name Rupert by the way and would not assume a baby Rupert was from a posh family but may assume a 30-60 year old Rupert was from a posh family if that makes sense. Things have changed.

Rupert is possibly the cutest name I can think of for a boy.

I get the impression this is more about your frustration with your dh too. Can you add your grandad's name as a middle name. I know lots of people who go by middle names. Personally I would never name my child a name I didn't like but obviously that shop has sailed now for you.

Thank you all so much for the comments. They were very reassuring to read, and hearing positive comments about the name really helped. We actually already do have my grandads name as a middle name, but sometimes it just gets to me, for all the reasons mentioned above. Thanks so much for the advice and understanding. It's has really helped xxx

I love the name Rupert , my very good friend is engaged to a great man in his late 20s called Rupert , she calls him Rupes. I do think you seem to have a few issues with your husband , he does appear to make huge decisions without really discussing them with you .