Letting sibling choose name

[BurpsTheDragon]

I'm 34 weeks pregnant and since we told our 6 year old DS, he's been calling the bump Baby Jack.

Jack's a name we'd never have chosen as it's too popular and we haven't said we're going to call the baby Jack.

But now it feels like he couldn't be anyone else and our DS has bonded with "baby Jack".

Is it silly to let our 6 year old name the baby or nice?

I wouldn't. If you 100% like it then possibly ok but it should be the parents' privilege and choice. He can name his own child when he's an adult.

I do like it, it's popular for a reason and honestly can't think of any other names either...

It would be silly if you don't absolutely love it as you will regret it and 6 year old could easily change their mind later on a whim anyway. They can be quite fickle. I let DD1 pick between the 2 names I had picked but couldn't decide between, but I loved them both and it really was an impossible choice for me. Perhaps that option would make ds feel better about not having Jack (although I'd not worry about the popularity- that comes and goes and the name you decide on could easily become popular)

I wouldn't pick the name just because your child likes it. But I wouldn't decide against it for that reason either.

The question is whether you really like this name or not. If you do then go ahead. But do go around the baby name lists to be sure you don't like anything better than Jack, so you're sure you won't regret your choice.

We didn't like it at the beginning but now our DS has been calling the bump Jack it has grown on us a lot. The only boy's name we've ever really liked a lot is the name we gave DS.

This happened to us in a way. We were talking over names and DS2 ears perked up. He started calling the bump one of the names and that’s what she was named. Honestly while I like the name well enough (put it on the list for the meaning) improbably would have gone for something else

I think it's a nice idea but I agree it's an extremely common name.

What if you made Jack his middle name?
If you still like the idea of your son choosing baby's name, what about giving him a few options you and your OH like and letting him choose off of that?

That's so weird, when I was pregnant my DSD called my bump baby jack, no idea why!! We ended up having a girl, so the name didn't stick.. but if she had been a boy it would have been a real contender!

Jack as a middle name if you're not set on it?

We had the same - DD sussed that I was pregnant, announced a name for the baby, and kept repeating it. A very out-there name from a friend's family. In our case we sadly lost the baby but yes, by that point DH and I had warmed to it and agreed to use it.

I love the name Jack! Your first child has excellent taste

I think it's a lovely idea if you like the name and it goes with your sons name

Why not? Picking a name is so difficult

I wouldn't because the baby didn't get to choose the sibling's name.

A 6-yr old will only know a few names, so will probably suggest one of his friends' names.

My dolls and teddies as a child had the names of my cousins or school friends, and my sister's favourite doll had her best friend's name.

I read quite a long thread about this recently, you might find it by searching, I think it would be crazy to give a child a name you don't like because of a 6 year old, iirc the opinion was mostly the same on the previous thread.

I'd maybe consider it as a middle name if you dont love it and wouldn't of picked it. You know if he said Baby Horatio it wouldn't of been a contender. Knowing kids his buddy at school probably has a baby brother called Jack or a teddy at school

DS1 wanted to call Ds2 Déja Vu. Really.(Five year age gap). So Jack is definitely a good option.

If you like the name and aren't just choosing it to make your DS happy, then why not? It's a sweet sentiment.

I let my DD name our dog, but only because it was on the approved list :)

DD1 wanted to call DD2 Rainbow Sprinkles so be glad your DS is using an actual name. DD1 is also 6. We gave DD2 a nickname while she was a bump and it took a while for DD1 to call her by her actual name after she was born.

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I agree it would be risky to let your child name their sibling if you don’t love the name. Children are so fickle so will easily change their minds.

DS1 knows someone whose sibling was allowed to choose her name, and she hates it. "Baby Jack" can always be a nickname.

I was 6 when my brother came along and I named him. My parents didn’t have a clue what to call him so i picked a name, they liked it and now that is DB’s name.

I do agree however that you should only use the name Jack if you like it and want to use it.

I know someone who chose her sister's name - she was named after a doll, but both names are of a similar vibe.

Another child I know was named by her 8-yr old sister - named after her best friend at the time - and the name stuck. Name not the same vibe at all.

If you like Jack, go for it.
My 6y/o DS has so far suggested his own name, and "Gaddy" as potential names for his new sibling ....

Call him whatever you want, and nickname him Baby Jack.

I do know a child you was named by her 2 year older sister. She's called Maisy Dora, after Maisy Mouse and Dora the Explorer!

Our DD named her little bro.