AIBU

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TTC Baby 3 and already having the name discussion because DH and I struggle to agree (very different taste). We have two DDs already and both times I didn’t use my first choice name - which as it turned out was fine, I genuinely love their names.

However I just know that this time if baby is a girl I really really want to use the name Primrose. DH isn’t as keen on it but I just know I won’t find anything else I love as much.

My question is AIBU if I put my foot down on this? I am open to other ideas but I just doubt I’m going to feel differently. Thankfully we have similar taste in boys names so that’s not an issue

I think YABU - both patents need to agree on a name.

If he's only "not keen" though you might persuade him to change his mind :)

I think it's quite justifiable. Primrose is a lovely name. He's had 2 first choices already so go for it!

I'm with your dh sorry

Primrose is 😬

@wildwan lol okay but was asking more if I’m being unreasonable wanting my own way, rather than views on the name. Open to other ideas and will be super impressed if anyone can persuade me :)

Are you a Hunger Games fan?

No OP I think you both need to like the name.

I really think both parents need to agree. You wouldn't like it if your partner forced a name upon your child that you didn't like. Presumably the names of you DDs are a compromise and as you said you really like them. Keep primrose on the table but you should aim to chose a name you both like. You've got plenty of time to find one.

I think it would be unreasonable.

I would be fuming if my dh tried to put his foot down and use a name I didn't like so I would extend the same courtesy.

If you're in a couple naming a child is a two person job imo. If one partner doesn't like it then its off the table. Maybe you could use it as a middle name?

But you said he isn't AS keen? I took that to mean he likes it, but just not as much as you?

Maybe Primrose as a middle name? Or use the much more classic Rose as the first name instead? I must admit I can't get past the "prim" part of Primrose so maybe he feels the same...

Primrose is a lovely name, but I agree you both need to agree.

I think YABU unfortunately, both parents should agree on a name. How would you feel if your partner put his foot down and chose a name you disliked?

A relative went with a name she wasn't keen on because it was a family name on DH's side, now she couldn't imagine her child called anything else. I think this time you should go with the name you love, your DH will get used to it.

@missmouse101 some days he says he likes it, others not. Which makes me even inclined to push for it because I want one of us to have strong feelings about it.

@IamnotwhouthinkIam for me it’s the Prim part I really like. Someone above mentioned Hunger Games and yes I am a fan, I just really like the name idk why. But it’s stuck for me for a long time.

for me it’s the Prim part I really like. Someone above mentioned Hunger Games and yes I am a fan, I just really like the name idk why. But it’s stuck for me for a long time.

Fair enough, it does sound pleasant in the Hunger Games and it's not as obviously linked as say, Katniss. I just think always try to to think would I like to have that name myself?

For me Primrose is one of those "risky" names that because of the "Prim" part can sound a little stuffy/old-fashioned, so even if I loved it I'd personally keep it in the middle name spot, just in case (but thankfully everyone's different and she may love it!)

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A relative went with a name she wasn't keen on because it was a family name on DH's side, now she couldn't imagine her child called anything else. I think this time you should go with the name you love, your DH will get used to it.

And there have been numerous threads on MN where the poster went with a name they weren't keen on and now want to change their child's name.

Both of you need to be in agreement on a name.

As for Primrose, I don't see the appeal. The 'rose' part is nice, but the 'prim' bit really isn't attractive. It also makes me think of Plumrose, a brand of tinned meats, which isn't pleasant either.

I love Primrose. It may grow on him, or it may not. So, you can have it on the list (if you make a list of your favourites, of course it should stay on there - it's your list). In the meantime you can work hard to find some others you also love for the list. He is welcome to make a list too. Over time as you compare and discuss your lists, hopefully you can find something, Primrose or not, that you both love.

I certainly wouldn't lose hope though, as names do grow on us, and others we tire of. Finding examples and pictures of young and modern Primroses could help the idea grow on him - it is an unusual name and it may seem really weird to him at the moment.