Changing your name by deed poll?

[curlyhairdiva]

So... I'm just wondering if you weren't married/had no plans on getting married to your partner any time soon, and had just given birth to a baby, would you change your surname by deed poll to your partner's so you could all have the same name? (assuming your baby took your partner's name ofc).

Nope - because I wouldn’t give my baby the fathers name if we weren’t married.

OP I really don't want to be impolite. but why would you want to change your name? What would it actually mean?
Your name is yours and reflects your ancestry, just as much as your DP's does his.
In many cultures, women don't change their names on marriage.

In Scotland, where I live, traditionally, married women did not change their names when they wed. And unmarried women if they had a child most certainly did not.

Why do you all have to have the same name? Who's chcecking? Does their opinion matter to you? If you and your DP feel that having the same name is so important, then why are you not married? (And if you have his child, then saying 'he has not proposed' would not be a vaild answer for me. However, I am very, very sorry and apologise if you have not had freedom of choice. That is truly very sad.) But otherwise...

Give the DC your surname not (necessarily) the father's.

I can totally understand why you may want to have the same name as your DP and DC... However it's a bit strange to do it by deed poll and not just get married xx

Give the baby your surname and the baby’s dad can get the deed poll.

Absolutely not.
With all due respect the facts are that your child is unlikely to be living with his/her father by the time they turn 18.
You are also more likely than not to have met someone else. Why would you want to change your name to that of someone you are not married to?

No. I am not married but we will be next year. DD has my surname not fathers, and nobody will be changing their name

I have considered this but if you're planning on living together and changing name etc then why not get married? I don't like the idea of a big wedding but you could just elope or have a small ceremony.