Anyone named their child something they didn’t like because their partner likes it?

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Partner wants to name baby after him but I’m really not keen on it, anyone named their child a name they don’t like because their partner likes it?

I don’t really like DDs middle name, but it was my partners late mums name so couldn’t really say no!

Not so much I dont like it it just wasnt my first choice. I thought ds2 was going to be a girl Dh thought boy. We were stuck on names so as long as we both liked them I would of had my first choice for a girl and dh got his choice for a boy. Like I say I didnt hate it and now hes older I couldnt imagine him being called anything else.
Is it not a name you can shorten?

I think it's much better to choose a name you both like rather than one which one of you loves and one of you hates. Middle names are slightly different as nobody ever calls you by your middle name in day to day life.

I would say stick to your guns. As a compromise, use his name as the middle name.

What happens if you have another child of the same sex?
Older brother has dad's name and he gets a name that doesn't have the same significance? I can see all sorts of issues there.

Do NOT back down on this. You will regret it when you’re hormonal postpartum, up all hours feeding etc you have to love the name you give your baby.

Compromise, use DHs name as a middle but put your foot down on this trust me

No, it should be a name both parents at least like. He might want to name a son after himself, but you don’t. Maybe you could make a list to pick from together instead.

My partner is named after his father though he goes by a different variation of it to most people. It's confusing when you get letters through etc. Ok in the beginning when they're a child but when they're a teenager and young adult still living with you. Also when people call for one and the other one answers.

Thankfully partner agrees that it's a bit silly and egotistical to do it - not to mention it's always the male line as if the surname isn't enough.

Like others said you both have to agree. There are some names I like that were vetoed but we have some we agree on.

I hope this baby is having your surname?!

And a big fat no to you having to name your own baby a name you dislike.

No, it should be something you both like! My partner really wanted to name our DS Marcus but I couldn't agree because I really don't like the name. Thankfully, we both chose a name we both love & suits our DS.

Don't be pressured into giving your child a name you really don't like. You'll only end up regretting it.

I would never.

I think I am a bit mean, but I refused to name our children after dead family members and I would 100% refuse to name our child a name we didnt both like. Both DDs have middle names that are the same as my DS and his DS, so there is a family connection, but they are both very normal middle names and we both liked them. Their first names are 100% their own, chosen by both of us (which was INSANELY difficult as we are both teachers, so have a very long list of names that we had bad associations with. We spent months saying no to literally hundreds of names).

IMO I think a name is so important and it should be something both parents can agree on. There are enough names in the world to find one both of you like.

I really wasn’t keen on the name of our first son but my husband really liked it so I went along with it. It wasn’t that I hated it, I just didn’t particularly like it either, and I had no idea what else to call him.

He’s 6 now and I adore his name - it just took a while to grow on me.