How did you eventually come to a decision on a name when you really didn't agree??

[Mumof3almost4]

Hi, I have a few weeks left thankfully but we do not agree at all on a boys name. We have such different tastes!
I would prefer an Irish one, a bit unusual but realise I'm going to have to really compromise on the unusual bit. DP loves very traditional, very popular names. I could never be swayed to like any of them. I do feel awful that I don't like anything he does but I just feel strongly about not having a common ordinary name. (Sorry that sounds bad, I really don't mean to offend anyone it is just my taste)
I'm interested to know how you all reached a compromise? DP also thinks the baby should have his surname, we are not married so I will double barrel.
Thanks for reading x

Sorry I don't know the answer but interested to hear what others say as in the same situation but with girls names. Hope some good advice comes along!

We couldn’t really agree a boys name. I had a few I liked he discounted them. Didn’t worry unduly as thought it was probably a girl. DS was born and DH just said “do you think he’s X?” and I said “Yep”.

X was a name we had talked about but wasn’t the front runner. I love it and am so pleased with it! So maybe it’ll just come to you!

My partner and I aren't married. I would have liked for our son to have a double-barrelled surname but he took my surname as his middle name instead. I was happy to compromise as both surnames are in the long territory.

As for first names, our son got my pick. I sold it to my partner as a good name if our son ever becomes a successful sportsman (not that we really care), but it worked! Ha!

Write your own list each then you are each allowed to remove one name from the other person s list until you have a couple left. Then toss a coin to know which one will be the main name and which will be the middle name .

Ooh @OneKeyAtATime that's risky but I like it, never heard that idea before!!

I’m in a bit of a similar position with my DP. I found some names that are traditional enough for dp but not too popular that work for both of us. Or a traditional name with a quirky nickname? We are going to have a list of around 5-10 for each sex and see what baby looks like! I’m thinking a name I just like might become one I love if it just fits the baby.

There's quite a lot of traditional names that are actually really really unusual these days
Names like Peter, Christopher and Laurence for example. I appreciate you want Irish names. Perhaps if you look for "dated" names that were once popular but have gone out of style you might well find a name that meets both criteria

Have you tried the baby name app? It’s like tinder for names. You both swipe left or right on all the names depending on whether you like them and it tells you all the ones you match on. There’s hundreds in there so you’re bound to have some common ground. I was surprised at how many DH and I both liked

We did something fairly similar to onekey!

It meant we used a name we both didn’t mind but neither of us loved. Because I’m the type (and it’s not healthy), I did have some regrets over the years. But the name suits DS and I’m mostly over it now!

DH and I have wildly different tastes in boys’ names.

We were same. I translated the Irish names into English and DH rejected thousands. I ended up reading names off film credits from our video library and suddenly DH said "yes, that one".

Ugh I'm in the same boat, I have only really felt strongly about 1 boys name and my OH doesnt like it, I get it and I understand her reasoning as it is now common and because of that I've kind of gone off it too. Luckily with my OH he isn't into common names but he likes really short simple names that sound nice with his last name. I can learn to love a name, but OH literally changes his mind daily and the more.he thinks about a name the more he goes off it! I've kind of left it up to him, I have vetoed a few, but when he really likes a name I like it. But he keeps changing his damn mind 🤣 I've given him too much control, I hope it's a girl because that name has been chosen for a while!

What about something like Patrick, (or is that too ordinary and common for you).

Thanks for suggestions!
I have downloaded the app I will give that a try.
I am glad I'm not the only one in this situation. I just keep giving up looking but obviously can't do that for too much longer.
@user1493494961 I have already used Patrick as a middle name, it's a name that is frequently used in my family so it's been taken as a first name already

With our first born we had no issues . We miraculously agreed 🤷‍♀️!

I’m currently pregnant again and we don’t know the sex . We both 100% love our boy name pick so no issues there . However I’m not 100% with our girl name pick . I actually suggested the name . The name is Skye and he loves it . I really like it but it doesn’t feel complete . I don’t know why because it’s one of the most beautiful names I know . For weeks I have been suggesting other girl names and he gets frustrated with me because he loves Skye so much and I really like it too so what’s the problem ? So I’ve decided to stick with Skye 😆! I do really like the name and he loves it and I think his heart is too set on it to change his mind .

I don’t know if that helps . I guess sometimes you need to make compromises as a couple ( within reason ). If I didn’t like the name then I wouldn’t have agreed to it but I do like it and he loves it . So that’s the name if baby is a girl !!!

@MichelleOR84 if we were having a girl it would be much easier, finding a boys name is so difficult. The name Skye is lovely 😊
We both do like one name but I don't love it, I wonder if it'll grow on me if we can't come up with any others.

DD1 we tossed a coin, dd2 DD1 picked