I don't like ANY names ... Help!

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I'm in my second trimester so there's plenty of time yet ..... but I don't like any names.

Literally none. They're either awful or just meh.

What am I going to do? Do you think finding out the sex will help me focus?

How about choosing classic names which could suit any personality? Your DC will put their own stamp on it in no time.

Or rather than trying to find names you like, get the top 500 and divide into good, OK and definitely not? Then narrow them down to 20 and post the shortlists on here for us to play with

Would it help to give some suggestions and then you can say which are remotely what you like.
You can’t always find out the sex btw, with my DD they couldn’t tell..

My DH and I couldn't agree a name we both liked for our second child. So in the end, we went for a long compromise name that had lots of options for nicknames. We called our child a variety of these nicknames until we found the one that suited her. Actually, my daughter ended up choosing a nickname we hadn't predicted but I now love.

Think a name like Elizabeth, which over the years I have seen shortened to: Ellie, Liz, Lizzie, Beth, Eliza, Libby, Betsy, Dizzy.

If you don't like any names at all give the baby a family name so the association is with someone you love rather than the name itself.

Or just give the baby your name (or your DP's name).

Finding out the sex definitely focused our minds - she felt more like a person then!

I guess, worse case scenario, you'll have a "meh" name. You might still find a name you like, or even love! But nothing wrong with a name you feel neutrally about. Like others say, then baby can put his own stamp on it.

If you're really struggling, I'd look at the top 100 and narrow it down to 10 or so, and then narrow it down to 3.

Or looking at your family tree is also a nice idea - even if it's a "meh" name, when people ask why you chose it, you can have a great reason! "Oh yes, my great uncle was called Joseph, we decided to use his name I never met him because he died fighting in the war / I always liked him because he gave me sweets / we wanted to use a family name". Or whatever.

You don't have to fall in love with a name for your baby.

You'll love your baby and the name will be theirs, and that's all that matters. Make a list of half a dozen you (and the father) don't hate, then stop worrying about it. When the baby is born, there'll be time to make the final choice.

If there's really none you like, name them after a friend or family member you really love.

My DD was VERY nearly a Robyn, which is my very best and oldest friend's middle name. And she has the middle name Claire after my mum. And my middle name is Helen, after my mum's favourite sister. ;)