Middle name for second son conundrum

[Monkeyseesmonkeydoesnt]

Our first son was given his dads first name as his middle name. I'm now expecting a second boy and wondering what middle name to give. Would it be odd to give the same middle name?

Has dad got a middle name you could use?

For a minute there I thought your son was going to be called Conundrum

Why not his grandfather's name? I would prefer that to same middle name.

Yes, it would be odd. Different person different name.

Fathers middle name is grandad name so would be leaning to 'favouring' that side of the family

But could use my side father/ grandfather name I guess

Ours both have the same middle name. People do occasionally think its odd, but it's a family name.

I quite like Conundrum lol

No don't give them the same middle name. That's just too Biblical... Too much 'Your Father's Son' going on for me. It's nice to pay homage to dad, but no need to make a shrine out of your DH's name. That's a bit 'too too'. It reminds me of when we viewed our house years ago and there was this enormous, floor to ceiling portrait of the dad hanging on the kitchen wall. DH and I were like, "Really? Anyone for Weetabix next to the Almighty Dad Shrine?"

Why don't you use the father's name as a first name and DD1's as a middle name, because the number of names you could choose from is so limited.

Alternatively, could you get a boy's name from your name? Something like Nicholas if you're a Nicola, or Samuel if you're Samantha? Maybe you could rearrange the letters of your name or the father's name.

My ex and his brother have the same middle name. I think it's fine. It's not like middle names are a massive part of ones life.

Totally agree @TheVanguardSix !! Spot on

I'd have one from your side to balance it out, so your dad first name / second name / grandads name

Thanks everyone for the ideas, my dad's middle name is also late grandads first name so this could work. We were very close so might be a nice idea. Not sure why I didn't think of that sooner!

Is there a masculine version of your name you could use? Keep it fair...

Tradition in my family is to use the mother’s maiden name (or a variant of it) as the name of the first born son. I didn’t do that but used that for his middle name.

Son one gets your dad's name as his middle name, Son two gets your husband's dad's name as his middle name - surely? That makes it 'fair'!

Son 1 has his own dad’s name as a middle name, not the OP’s dad’s.

Yes I know - realised after I'd posted

Something on your side surely! Yes to grandad's name - really not keen on the actual parent's name being used for the child, so I think your second son is getting the better deal.

Or, failing that, Conundrum is fine.

Is there a masculine name for your nAme. Eg if your name is Stephanie how about Steven or Stefan.