Did you 'love' your babies names?

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We are due a girl September and have a list of names we like but I haven't come across any that have jumped out at me and screamed 'The One'
Am I expectjng too much from a name? Is there such a thing as the perfect name or do you find one you like and they grow into it?
Interested to hear other people's experiences...

Nope, I'm pregnant with my third. My first 2 were boys and I really struggled to find a name. I ended up letting dp pick ds2 name. I quite like I now, but I wouldn't have picked it myself. I have no names at all for this baby, girls or boys, I'm stumped.

I love both names but I never felt they were the one

We didn't know babies sex so had boys and girls names on long lists. Narrowed down to 4 each before the birth, as she was shown over the sheet we said it's A or B looked at her again and said A

This is really interesting, thank you all for your replies 😊
Seems there's a bit of a mixed bag, I think I need to take the pressure off slightly and maybe take a couple of weeks off thinking about it then revisit.
Thinking about it I took ages to name my cats 😂 not the same but shows a level of indecisiveness!
We have always planned to have 2/3 options ready and decide when we meet her, so we have flexibility. I find it hard to assign a name to someone I haven't even seen yet!
I remember my mum saying actually that they didn't name me til the last minute before registering the birth, they couldn't agree on anything.

I would have found it impossible to love a name before baby was born. We had a list of names/combinations that we liked but were fairly meh about all of them. When DS was born, one of the names just seemed right and now I can't imagine anything else and it's just perfectly him.

I don't 'love' either of my DS's names.

They're actually a bit random.

Eldest is apostle name plus one of my granddad's names. Who afterwards, sort of 'let the family down' a tiny bit.

Second has two random names; first an apostle, second random, tho as much 'out there' as DS1's middle name as my granddad didn't have a very conventional name! I wish, now, I'd incorporated DH's father's name in there, but MIL had pissed us both off so much at that stage, we didn't.

We had narrowed it down to two names but it took 5 days once she was here to decide and then it took quite a while to suit her.

I adore ds's name. I just love the sound of it. I think dd's name is beautiful but we call her by her nickname and now her name doesn't really seem like her name anymore!

I absolutely loved my two boys names and they were named during pregnancy too. Never changed my mind and still love now. However, I can't settle on a girls name. Nothing feels right! It's so frustrating. I don't want her to feel like her name wasn't loved as much as her brothers.

Although my ds’s suit their names perfectly, they weren’t you first choice, and I wouldn’t say I “love” them. Although I do like them a lot.

With ds1, dh and I didn’t agree on any names at all, so we ended up calling him a family name.

When ds2 came around, dh was more open to some of my ideas that I had for ds1, but they were names that we then couldn’t use for various reasons.

I love ds2’s name, but I hate the fact that I pronounce it differently to dh and most other people I know because I’m a southerner living in the north. I’m self conscious every time I say it which I know is a bad thing but we are too far down the line now to do anything about it.

But at the end of the day, it’s not about me, or dh, it’s about those boys who have to grow up and live with this names their whole lives, and I think they are great names that they will be proud to have.

When I look at these threads I'm always drawn to feminine,"frilly" names but DD2's name is quite different, I think fate took a hand because her name suits her perfectly in a way that names like Antonia or Miranda just wouldn't.

I loved the names of my DD and DS before they were born. They are still my favourite names

Yes
We loved all three of our children’s names before they were born and I spoke to them and called them those names

I still love them and wouldn’t change them

I’m so indecisive, so dds name was decided at a few hours old from a narrowed down choice because I had to make a choice at some point.
I liked it, but didn’t love it. 2 years on I adore her name. It’s very her. I do believe babies grow into their names. We’re having another in November and the thought of choosing again is stressing me out, so I don’t think think about it!

No, I liked them, they met my personal criteria but there are names I love more. I kind of feel like they were their names and I’m glad I didn’t use names I really loved as I’d have had preconceptions of what they’d be like.

@MrsH497 I’m so tired that for a moment I thought you called your baby A... and one of the reasons we wanted to know the sex was because we couldn’t decide on boys names, it got really tense whenever it came up! I had two I liked and my DH didn’t like either. I don’t know if it’s harder as a straight woman when a number of nice men’s names may have been ruined due to past relations, good or bad! And it just felt like there was way more ‘normal’ (not super out there) but still not that common girls names. I remember boys with uncommon names being really bullied at school, e.g. Gabriel was one that springs to mind.

A friend of mine changed her sons name 5 times before she registered him so that always worried me about deciding on one name. With ds we had 3 names but 1 that was the top and that's the one he got and I still love it.

Dd we had much harder time with because my taste and dh differed more so when we found one we both loved we kept coming back to it. It really does suit her.

I think that once the name is your child it becomes a part of them and you love it because you love them. If that makes sense.

@powkin 😂 don't worry I'm shattered and wasn't convinced the post made any sense!
We agreed more on boys names than girls. Least I've now got those lists for any future little ones! Looking at her she couldn't be any other name 🥰 middle names were set before the first name as they are family names.

I didn't find out the sex of my two whilst pregnant so came up with a short list which we agreed to pick from.

For DS1 we had a favourite which we both agreed on and both loved it (and still do).

For DS2 we could not agree at all. My DH flatly refused all of the names I loved and equally I couldn't stand the ones he picked. In the end he suggested on that I thought was good, but when DS2 arrived I really wasn't sure. But the birth was traumatic, I had general anaesthetic and I was so out of it that I just agreed to the name without really being sure. A week later I was really regretting it and have struggled a lot with it - but now he's getting older (15 months) he's kind of grown into it more and I can't imagine him being called anything else. That said, I do wish I had spent more time considering names while I was still pregnant and fought a bit harder for the names I did really love.

@Scubalubs87 how funny - I wrote Lucy because I love the name! It's a classic but never been overdone! Lucky you - nice name!

I thought I was set on boys names and since getting pregnant, DH has completely changed my mind.

I always wanted Caleb or Cillian, but he’s made me fall in love with Lachlan.

We’ve got two boys names we love and two girls names we love, to the point that i would still use them if close friends or family also chose them.

Yes all of them, still do.
I habe Eden, Sylvie, Reuben, Delilah and Raphael.

I have used ones that were on our list for firts DS and DD for subsequent ones. DH more or less gave me free reign with names though.

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Dc1 and 2 were,with exh. I'm afraid I loved ds1 name so much I really put my foot down. Exhs name as middle. I still adore that name. Dd1 was a compromise but she suits it so well that I love it now and dd2 with dh2 has a gorgeous friendly name that suits her placid personality. Love all their names a lot.

I absolutely love my little girls name and there were never any other options in terms of first name, we just picked it and love it.

My only worry is how I'll pick one as nice for future DC!!!!!

Best of luck picking a name op.... I'm sure you'll find one that feels right for your family