Middle name

[LilacTomorrow]

Is it ridiculous to give both my children the same middle name?

My partner and I have been back and forth over names for months. Both of us wanted a middle name after a grandparent that has passed away. So we've agreed either both names or neither and both sounds too much.

I have one sibling, partner is an only child so our first child has the middle name of my sibling. Would it be unreasonable to give the new baby the same middle name?

I am very much set on the idea that the middle name should have meaning or be a family name. Given we all have my partners surname then I'd like it to be from my side of the family. He is not from the U.K. so his surname is quite unusual which we love.

We do have another option of another relative but I do prefer my siblings name. Plus I think my first born would be thrilled to share a name with the new baby.

What are everyone's thoughts?

all the women in my family have the same middle name. All the men in DH's family have the same middle name. As a coincidence in both cases the names are a family surname that has just gone down the generations.

For example.. 'Baker'. So I am GreenBakerMug and my sister is BlueBakerHandle for example. No-one bats an eye. We all like the common theme really.

I think it’s a bit boring, and you’ve already honoured that sibling is there really a need to do it again? For what it’s worth my middle names are my two grandmothers, my DB are both grandfathers, it’s fine and not a lot. My DC will have two middle names too. I’d use the grandparents names.

I think it would be ok to do it, if that's what you want to do. Though I would not do it. If my dc had the same surname I would find it strange giving them the same middle name too. Not sure why.

I'm so torn! I suppose I shouldn't care what others think. If I like it then that's enough.

It's not so much about honouring my sibling. I just like the name and I want something meaningful.

I'm not due for a few weeks yet so might just sit on it and decide when baby arrives.

Thanks for all your views. Keep them coming!

Can you go back a bit on your family tree? Did dm have a nice dgf for example?

Personally I think there are so many wonderful names out there that have lovely meanings. Are there any names further back in your family history that you could use? Or something meaningful to you in a different way?

For example my friends favourite flowers are Azalia's and she had them as part of the flowers at her wedding. She felt it was a bit wild for a first name so it's her teenaged dds mn.