Twins with very different names

[FirstTimeMumOfTwins]

DH and I have very different taste when it comes to baby names. Before I got pregnant we talked for years about what we might one day call a baby, and could never find one name we both liked! We ended up having identical twin girls and eventually found two names we both love, although they are certainly not matchy. One is very English and the other is an old Scottish name (I am half Scottish). The only thing is that they both have the same number of syllables. Everyone keeps commenting on how they don't match Does it matter? My response is usually that they are identical, so it's nice for them to have names that are very different. But it is starting to bother me and I kind of wish they had more similar names. What do you think?

My friend has twins called Cerys and Rosie and gets the same comments. I think they both have lovely names and surely that's all that matters.

There seems to be an obsession about names for some people.
"Is it too common?"
" I want a unique name. "
"I don't want her to be one of 3 in her ckass"
I suppose this is a part of that. Why don't you just tell people I name Anne and dh named Windcime ?

Named.

I would fucking hate to have a matching name with my identical twin, thank God my mum was sensible and saw us as 2 individuals.

What are the Names. I think I would raise an eyebrow at one called Mohammed and one called Rupert. But I wouldn't say anything. It's quite rude once they are born and named.

My twins are have a Scottish and a French name mine are identical but I have ensured they are raised with lots of individuality. They are 13 now and great people .

They’re individuals , just because they’re identical it doesn’t mean they seen similar names. Tell people you wanted them to be their own person and that although they’re identical they need some individuality . I know a few set of identical twins , some with very similar names / Maggie & Masie , Graci & Charli, Laura & Layla. Then I know a few with different names- Rosie & Laura , Phoebe and Gemma . They don’t need to be similar x

I think it is lovely that they have very different names :)

You see I don't think Gemma & Phoebe or Rosie & Laura are very diffetent.
I would raise an eye at twins or siblings called Anne-Marie & Hunter-Neuvoux.
Just as I would if one child was dressed in army camouflage, with wild hair, comfortable practical shoes and taken on outdoor pursuits whilst the other was dressed head to toe in sparkly sequined attire, impractical shoes, hair adorned with bows and ribbons and never encouraged to pursue outdoor activities.

Think it's like all siblings - they should be of the same family of names - eg having a Charlotte and a Henry works better than Charlotte and Tyler for example

This idea that children's names should "go together" is one I've only heard on mumsnet and not something I'd ever considered before. I don't get why it matters if their names are similar or not at all

Like Vivienne Marcheline & Knox?? I thought that was odd - that Knox was given a matchy matchy made up name with his male siblings and Vivienne given an inherited family name.

I think it’s great they don’t match, they are individuals not a two piece set. Just come up with some good answers to rude people.

Names don't need to match but I do think they need to complement each other to an extent. Each person is an individual but they are also members of the same family and it's nice to feel part of a unit. Complementary names aid that. Elizabeth & Katherine works better than Elizabeth & Kylie for example.

I don’t think they have to match.
What are the names?

What are the names? How old are they? I imagine this will pass. Many things in life do.

Nah they're two individuals.

I don't want to post the actual names on here (sorry!) But they are very much along the lines of Cerys & Rosie. The Scottish one isn't out of place in England but is clearly Scottish, if you know what I mean. Not as different as Mohammed & Rupert but not as similar as Laura & Rosie! I do feel better reading these comments though

Its about having names you like. Often all siblings names 'match' as its about taste and so often you like similar sounding/themed sort of names.

The times this doesn't happen in my experience is when the siblings are half or if there is a big gap between the children.

I wouldn't give such ridiculous comments head space. I'm sure your daughters names are lovely and you both liking them is the main thing.

If they’re along the lines of Cerys and Rosie, that is fine imo. Isn’t it more that people like an opinion on anything? Opinions on having children for example. You’re not having children or having them too young or too old or too many or too few, etc, you’re selfish.

They're two separate individuals. Why do the names have to 'match'?

Personally I think it's so much nicer that they don't match.
It tells people right away that they are individuals and it sounds like they are not at odds with each other like some of the examples pps mentioned.

@fabulous40s

Think it's like all siblings - they should be of the same family of names - eg having a Charlotte and a Henry works better than Charlotte and Tyler for example

Why? Unless you spend all your time with your siblings, I can't see how it matters.

Tallulah and Doris.

As someone with more than one set of twins in our wider family, and lots of twin friends, matching is weird. The twins names are all fairly classic but they don't have the same number of syllables or start with the same letter (so not Bill and Ben). They're all individuals.