Partners' bizarre opinions

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Talking over baby names with OH.

According to him: Alice is "too posh" - my dirt poor great grandma was Alice so that makes no sense to me!

Lorna and Hazel (which I really like and hoped he would too) are "too not posh" - wtaf??

Anyway, just wondering if other people's partners have similar odd opinions..?

And please note - this is intended to be LIGHT-HEARTED! To any parents of Alices/Lornas/Hazels - I think your children have really nice names and my partner is bonkers!

Are you seriously contemplating having children with this weirdo?

DH vetoed a name on our list because it was his mother's best friends granddaughters name, and thought it would be too confusing for them!

Think I remember your other thread!

The saving grace here is that you are not married, so just name your baby yourself :)

@MikeUniformMike not just contemplating - 31 weeks gone so a bit late to back out now

Thankfully we ha e found a few names which are neither too posh/not posh/don't remind him of an annoying friend of his sister/character who ran the cafe in Home and Away (sadly Ailsa was ruled out for this reason )

@FizzyGreenWater they went over the birth registration rules in antenatal class so he knows where the power lies

What names are not too posh and not too not posh, according to your partner?

@peperethecat - see the first post

No I mean which ones does he think are just the right amount of posh?

I think we're all a bit irrational when it comes to baby names, because we tend to associate them in our head with the person we know or used to know with that name. They come to represent everyone with that name.

FWIW I agree with your partner that Alice is quite a posh name!

We have a 5 syllable surname (not even double barrelled). Agreed short and simple was best as he hated his long first name and long surname and always moans about it not fitting on forms etc.

His offerings? Kimberley, ekaterina, horatio and zebedee

Common sense prevailed and we ended up with an emma.

My ex vetoed my favourite ever name because he reckoned it belonged to a different ethnic origin and would look silly being used in our culture, like misappropriation or something. We are white British. The name was Eve. 🤷‍♀️🤦‍♀️ Go figure.

Mine has very strong opinions on not using names from other cultures.

So no Alice, Sophie or Louis on the grounds we're not French... most biblical names ruled out on grounds they are of Greek/Hebrew etc. origin.

Isabelle is acceptable, however, as he really likes it, as are Isabella and Juliette, but not Isabel or Juliet.

He thinks names like Edward and Henry are too posh to use, but I know loads of non-posh people whose DC have these names. For me they are timeless and classless names.

The only truly 'English' names I can come up with are Aethelfaed type names. Our children will love us

It was meant in jest OP.

I think SweatyAmy's OH is worse, and suggest you look for names you both like, and as it's you giving birth, you get to make the decision.

Ha! DP is Scottish but won't use an overtly Scottish name as the child will grow up in England and it would therefore be "cultural appropriation"

@peperethecat ah, sorry, I misunderstood. Names like Sophie, Laura, Anna, Abigail.. perfectly nice normal names, I just don't understand why they're any more or less "posh" than Lorna, Hazel or Alice

I know Mike!

Anna is one of my favourites, but I agree I think all the names you've just listed are completely normal and I wouldn't say any of them were particularly posh or the opposite. They're all pretty much the same level of posh in my opinion.

My DH has vetoed my favourite name, Raphaella, because "it sounds like a brand of cakes"

Isn't there a chocolate called something a bit like that

momsdish.com/recipe/372/ferrero-raffaello-cake-recipe

Raffaelo is a chocolate

According to a particular ex:
Sebastian - far too posh
Georgiana - a hell no, not even entertained

But Genghis? Genghis was fiiiiine.

Needless to say I did not have babies with ex.

I had a friend called Oliver at school and remember my parents (and friends' parents) dubbing it a posh boy's name. They are currently struggling over whether the country is increasingly posh or not...

Nothing wrong with the name's OP. Whether a name is posh or not is often pretty arbitrary (Tarquins and Jagos notwithstanding)

It's not cultural appropriation for a Scottish person to use a Scottish name in England.

My Mam's Welsh and gave me a Welsh name in England. My DH did ponder whether it would be cultural appropriation for me to use a Welsh name but we concluded it wouldn't be.

I really don't think Alice is posh. Alys, which is the Welsh version, is on my list and I'm decidedly not posh

I think most classic names don't have strong class associations, isn't that partly why they're popular?

I see names like Thomas, James, Elizabeth and Alice as quite timeless - they could be old/young or posh/not posh.

Ha, Genghis is the kind of name my Dad would like (he made a series of very out there suggestions for me (think Boudicca) at which point Mam took over and named me, thankfully!)

There is a Welsh version of Boudicca, Buddug, but even Mam could see that wouldn't work in England!

Dad vetoed Myfanwy for me but otherwise let Mam choose.

Shame - Myfanwy sounds so soft and pretty in a Welsh accent. I do see the problem using it elsewhere though.

DP's top picks were Susan and Douglas. I don't know what decade he thinks this baby will be born in.