Baby born, no name ? Having issues

[K1mberlylauren]

So I’ve now had my boy, my partner is making me feel so depressed, my little perfect man has been here for 48 hours and it just doesn’t feel right him not having a name and I feel my daughter is confused !!

It’s like he isn’t saying nothing to me, but my child isn’t a fashion show!
And we will decide, I think it is so ridiculous as we had a wide choice of names !!!!
Helpppp

Hi hun I remember your other thread about 4/5 weeks ago, congratulations on your son!

I prefer some of your names.

I would stop talking to him about it, he is being an arse!

Spend a few days thinking then start using the name you like the most.

Whose surname will the baby have? If you were, some time in the future, to separate, make sure you are happy with the name you have chosen.

@HotwaterbottleloveThanks we are, baby is just so amazing, just the name issues never thought it would be hard choosing a boys name x

@MrsP2015
Thanks Mrs p x

@Twisique
Well it’s heading that way lol! If we can’t even decide on a bloody name I agree l, I mean I said to him every single day since baby has been here can we sit down and discuss and he’s acting like a dick! Knowing it’s upsetting me

He will have his surname x

Call him whatever you want to. Dad can’t register the baby as you’re not married.

Don’t give the baby his surname! He’s an arse over this imagine if you split up?
OR if baby is to have his surname then you get to give him his Christian name.

You aren't married.

He doesn't get to have the final say - that's the bottom line. YOU are the only one that can register the baby.

If he is such a horrible partner as to 'get' to you over the name while you are vulnerable after giving birth, that is a BIG SIGN that you should name the child yourself AND make sure he has YOUR surname, or the same surname as your oher children. Because he doesn't sound great.

Tell him to keep away.

Give the baby your surname.

Or tell him, if he wants this baby to have his surname he can bloody well start earning that right by treating you as a man should treat the mother of his child.

You don't have to decide now! Really, nothing is decided until you register. And YOU will be the one doing that.

Tell him to go away and have a long think before this baby is named by you and only you. If he wants to have his thoughts CONSIDERED by you, the one who will decide, then he needs to fucking wake up!

Why is the baby having his surname?

Be strong! You've got this!

'D'P is being an arse.

I would tell him that you both need to discuss this sensibly, as adults and take both your preferred names off the table and find something else you can both live with.

If he refuses I would be giving baby your surname (or both your surnames at least) and choosing the first name.

Of names you have liked Cassius, Mathias and Elias/Elyas are lovely.

As you are not married you can register baby alone and choose the full name.

Alexander and Christopher are nice names, but you don't like them, and I don't think they go very well with Amayah anyway.

Something like Cassius, Mathias and Elias, and names like Asher and Idris go better with Amayah.

I think Alexander known as Xander would work, but he doesn't get to bully you into a name, especially not when you've just given birth. How dare he spoil this time for you!

I also find it concerning that he is so adamant his son should have a Christian name when he seemingly didn't have this criteria for his daughter.

How did you agree on Amyah OP? Did you suggest it and he ok it? Were you both broadly on the same page girls names wise?

I have a feeliing OP's daughter may not be his?

OP if so, I would certainly think about the surname. What surname does your daughter have?

He has no power here. I really suggest you just call your child what you want to.

I back up everyone on this page. You are vulnerable and the way he is treating you is not acceptable. How will he treat you in future, in other vulnerable situations or even day-to-day. Protect yourself and your child by giving him your surname. Funny how he has such Christian values yet will bully a vulnerable woman.

I thought christians believed in marriage before babies, even if they don't go as far as no sex before marriage.

@OnlyJudyCanJudgeMe
My daughter has his surname so a bit late for that lol but yeh he is acting like a right idiot. I’ve decided to just name baby as he hasn’t mentioned nothing to me today

@FizzyGreenWater
Thank you you have taken the words out of my mouth! Trust me I am naming the baby, he is being a total arse and it’s really fucked men of tbh! Trust me I’m putting my foot down !

@CaffiSaliMali
He agreed to amayah yeh he liked our daughters name didn’t have an issue !
I no he’s really pissed me of I love been ignoring him today! And I have told him let’s sit down and discuss and he ain’t said shit he’s being a prick !

I’m going to name baby myself x

@whatausername
Thanks I’ve been feeling proper down about it it’s really got to me today, really pissed of I felt like locking him out the house ! X

Which name did you choose?

I thought you said on p1 of this thread your daughter is Anayah? Now she’s Amayah?

Also sure you said in your previous post you were married (possibly the one that mumsnet took down)

Anyway I think Anayah/Amayah and Eliyas sound a bit too rhymey

Hi,

Try www.arabicenglishbabynames.com

For bilingual Arabic/English baby names.

Good luck!

Wondering if he feels he should have the say and support from you in naming your(both) son since that is what he did for you when naming your daughter? Through the lines here I think I sense a bit more than just what is being said. Have you approached him with we need to talk names and I am fighting for what I want-attitude, or is it the look we need to get to an agreement, take a breath and we will get through this-attitude? Regardless, congrats on your baby and maybe just let the name issue cool down a bit, there is no rush atm. Give him a nickname if that helps your daughter, most kids have them and many are not like their real name anyways.

How about Eleyan?
(Pronounce as but like elliot but it's 'an' instead of 'ot').
He was one of king Arthur's knights in the legend and he was said to be of Arabic decent.