Name advice

[Chester6]

Have a name short list of names for my daughter arriving soon with a pretty slightly unusual front runner, although in the back of my mind separately have always really liked the name Poppy.
Now my sis in law is pregnant a few months behind me and i think also likes the name Poppy if they have a girl. I can't help it niggling at me that I don't want to miss out on that name or have name envy if they take it. What are people's thoughts please? Thanks

I quite like Poppy, but I think we need to know what your other choice is so we can compare.

Has she actually said she likes that name? If she's said in conversation with you 'we really like Poppy' then you'd probably be causing a problem if you used it. What's your other choice?

Hmmm....I think it depends on what's been said. If you've had a chat with SIL where you told her your top choice and she told you hers is Poppy then she might be a bit put out if you suddenly change it. I mean, no one owns a name and you could both have a Poppy (which may happen if you do choose it) but I just think she might find it weird if you told her something else and then go with "her" choice. If you've not properly discussed anything then it's fine.

What is your front runner?

I think Poppy is a bit bland and overdone personally.

Yes, what's the other name? I'm curious

I think you need to decide which of the two options you'd be more disappointed not to use. If it's Poppy, use it - you're due first, after all. If it's the other one, then gracefully accept that your sil may use it for your niece, and be happy you get to use your favourite name.

Also keep in mind that she may change her mind and choose something totally different! Best to focus on finding the best name for your baby and not worry about what somebody else may or may not do.

Thanks all. It's Amelie.

Amelie is nice but I wouldn't call it unusual. Isn't it one of the most popular names at the moment?

Yes I guess you're right it's not particularly uncommon, although more uncommon than Poppy (number 21 most common last year) whereas Amelie was number 79 I think. Am so torn though.

Amelie and Poppy are both lovely names, neither particularly rare but not Top 10 either.

I wouldn't make this decision based on popularity or somebody else. Which do you like more? What about your partner? Which goes with baby's surname better? Do you have a middle name chosen, if so which goes better with that?

(Also I want to edit my previous response a bit- I agree with other posters that if you've had a chat with SIL where she said she liked Poppy before you mentioned it, it may seem that you "took" her name, even if you already liked it. But I still think this issue, and the popularity one, is muddying the water for you. It should be about which name you love the most.)

Of the two I think Amelie is nicer and you'd avoid the potential situation with your SIL.

Thanks. Sorry I should have mentioned, SIL knows I like the name too as it's been on our list for a while, although I think DH does prefer Amelie. I wish I was more decisive :-)

Which one are you happy saying a million times a day? Does one sound better?

Your having your baby first so you will get in there first with Poppy anyway

For what it's worth I LOVE the name

If you have a girl this time but don't pick poppy then there's no way you can shot gun a second choice name that you didn't use and there's no guarantee you'll have another girl

Poppy is great. Use it

Whilst you're right about Amelie being further down the charts than poppy. I think there's more names that are very similar to Amelie that Male it feel more popular than it actually is.
Poppy is really lovely. I don't know any

(Emily Amelia Emilia)

Amelie is overdone and Poppy’s a bit more uncommon.

If your sister-in-law has a girl baby and names her "Poppy", you will have a niece - and will love her and be able to enjoy the name through her.
There will always be the - we considered that name - but once her baby is here - she will be the cute Poppy you've always imagined - just not your daughter, but a niece.

Amelie, whilst not actually too common is definitely party of the Amelia/Emmeline name 'group' to me and it makes it more of a popular choice imo.
Poppy will always be a little girl's name to me.
Of the two I'd still choose Amelie but don't be surprised if there are a few in DD's peer group with almost identical names.

What are the other names on your shortlist, out of interest OP?

Polly is a similar name which is a bit more unusual if you'd consider that, although if you call your daughter Polly your SIL might still feel she can't use Poppy.

Thanks. Amelie would have Willow as a middle name. The only name I love is Florence but perhaps not as much, and I think this is also becoming quite popular. All of the names sound nice with our surname.

Florence is a beautiful name too.

My DD is called Poppy. She is 13 and has always loved her name :)

Amelie is so much nicer.