To feel that you used up your favourite baby name with your first child

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Hi all. I’m due with boy #2 at the end of August. Our nearly 3YO is called Arthur. I’ve had so many suggestions on names but I can’t shake the fact that I feel like I’ve already used up my favourite boys name. I know this is completely first world problems but I just knew what our son would be called from very early on. Approaching the final trimester and still clueless. Anyone in the same boat?

I have the opposite problem in that I could quite cheerfully name every baby in the hospital.

I do find it easier to decide on boys names than girls.

Do you have any names you like?
How about Freddy, Edward, Henry?

I had the same! I'd always wanted to use my first boys name, then my second DS was born i was a bit stumped.

But he just suited the name we gave him, which actually wasn't on our lists.

What's your partners choices? If you aren't set on a name look at some family names?

Definitely! When DD2 was born I wished we hadn't given DD1 the middle name we did so we could have used it for her. As it is we've given her a name I regret and am not happy with.

Yes I felt a little like that worried we wouldn't find a name for #2 we loved as much for #1 but we did. My youngest name is slightly more common and of a different style but we love them both equally (names and children).
Arthur is a great name I think it goes well with many different styles.
What are some you have considered?

Arthur is one of my favourites too

To go with Arthur how about
Sid(ney) or
Wilf(red) or
Barnaby or
Albert or
Laurence (Laurie)
Vincent (Vinnie)
Joshua
Seth
Miles
Ellis
Eli
Eric
Angus
Caleb
Peter
Christopher nn Kit

Does Arthur have a middle name that you love? My parents gave my older brother their favourite first and middle names and then when my little brother came along they gave him my older bro’s middle name as his first because they couldn’t think of one they liked more.

Yes! Expecting DS2 and feel a bit sad that his name will never be as special as DS1 as I just don’t love any as much as we have weeks to go.

Having a girl would be so much easier with names...

I think you'd have to choose another old name to go with Arthur, but I understand where you are coming from.
It's so hard to choose the name. I find it really easy to name girls and hard to name boys for some reason.

Thank you all for such lovely replies; I don’t feel so silly now. Arthur’s middle name is Robert after my husband grandad who is no longer with us.

This little boy will have Buddy as a middle name after my brother in law. Surname begins with a J- husband has vetoed a first name with a B as doesn’t want initials as BJ

I really want an old man name again. Wilfred was our top choice but now Boris has named his son that we don’t feel we can use it as our surname is nearly the same.

The list we currently have:

Edward
Alfred
Albert
Charles
Gilbert
Herbert
Winston
Oswald
Hubert
Chester
Lawrence
Ralph
Stanley

Edward is up the top but it doesn’t feel as less used as Arthur. Name’s we can’t have for Cairo is reasons are George, James, Hugo, Elliot, Isaac.

I have 2 DDs and I used the second as an opportunity to run a name DH had vetoed first time round by him again and it worked! So is there anything you think is 'out't that might not be this time?

@lizzierayne no we both loved Arthur and nothing came close to it so no change of that!

I think Edward is lovely but somehow not great with Buddy, ( Eddy Buddy/ Teddy/ Buddy/ Woody Buddy)
I love Lawrence and I think it sounds great with Buddy.

Also Arthur and Lawrence sound great together.

Winston is fab. As is Lawrence, although prefer the Laurence spelling.

Edmund
Francis
Digby

Ralph is great.

What about Oscar?

Eric
William
Edmund
Archibald
Walter

I like Edward, Charles and Stanley from your list.

I really dislike Hubert and Herbert, they just remind me of pervert (Sorry OP)

Yes! I had one boys name that I loved and he was that from the second I knew I was having a boy. But with the next one no name ever really stuck and we gave him a name we liked but I never loved it and sometimes still wish I’d named him Sebastian altho that felt a bit pretentious for who we are. It’s not easy naming babies

I like the Arthur and Ed sound. Edward, Edmund, Edwin

Buddy is always going to be a bit out of kilter with old English names but not many people speak their middle name in daily life.

We had the opposite problem - we had loads of girls names and no boys names at all, and then of course we had a boy.

It took us almost the entire six weeks to register his name because we had no idea what to call him (we were still discussing spellings on the way to the register office). So I am praying we have a girl next, because any boy will have to be “Baby”.

What about Wilbur if Wilfred is gone? Also loving Gilbert, Rupert at the moment?

Hector?

Someone I know recently named their baby this and it's really grown on me

Ronald?

Felix