Second guessing :/

[Summerloving16]

Has anyone named their dd or ds and then gone on these name threads and seen negative associations which has made you second guess your child’s name :(

I see people saying my DS name is a shortened name and it should not be put on the birth certificate but we don't like any of the long versions of it.

You obviously love your ds/dd name so please don't second guess yourself, I bet it's a lovely name!

@cosmicfriends this is exactly my ‘issue’ I have put the shorten version, just to add to story used the long version a
Originally and then changed it to the diminutive but now and since I’ve discovered mumsnet name boards . It seems by everyone view it is ‘cutesy’ . I am happy we made the change as it is her name and I found it hard to say she is xxx but known as yyy and didn’t want her life to be this. It is the most obvious shortening from the name. :(

What is the name?

I don’t want to disclose I don’t need the added you should of kept the long name etc and the name is cutesy as it what we wanted just seeing if others had the same feeling / emotion

What is the name, OP?

People can be blunt on here. I don't think there is any point in calling a child something then never using the full name and always using a diminutive.

It can make life complicated if the initial is different or if the full name has many spellings; e.g. Kate - Katharine, Katherine, Catherine, Kathryn, Cathryn, or Tilly - Matilda, Mathilde, Ottilie etc.

Any name you choose will have negative comments on here OP, I really wouldn’t worry about it.
I’m guessing it’s a name like Indie. And yes that might sound a bit unfinished to our generation but to the next generation of Alfie Archie Albie ‘s (all top 100 names) it’ll sound totally normal.
For what it’s worth my registered name on a birth certificate is a short version of a longer name and I’m happy about it! I prefer it that way

All names are hated by someone because everyone has different tastes and experiences. There is no name everyone will like.

All of my kids’ names have been criticised on here - too harsh, too boring, too popular. I doubt I’d particularly like their children’s names either.

We named our youngest Gracie. Maybe it is cutesy and maybe we should have named her Grace but we liked Gracie. I wouldn’t worry about what anyone else thinks just as long as you like your babies name that’s all that matters. 😊

I think it’s probably a compliment if a name you’ve chosen is disliked by Mumsnet.

Never. When I was pregnant with DS 8 years ago, I asked opinions on the name. Everyone HATED it and now it's becoming more popular. If you like the name go for it.

DS is Ralph

You say 'everyone views it as cutesy' but it is rare on this site that people all agree about a name. So I'm sure not everyone! I bet there are a lot of people who love the name.

The reality is that not everyone will like every name. I see posters on here go round in circles and drive themselves crazy doubting every name choice because every time they put up a new name for comment some people don't like it! Recently there was one in which 12 out of the 35 posters didn't like it - so she scratched it off the list.

I'm not saying it isn't a good idea to see how people respond to it - that's the point of the forum, but it's unrealistic to think everyone will like your name. Have some confidence in your choice!

My DP insisted that we put a long version on my son's birth certificate and I hate it now, I literally only agreed so our son would have a name and we could get him registered. The short version is a name in it's own right and I wish we had just used it on it's own.

I like a long version so that the child has a chance to choose their own identity and be intimate with whom they choose.

It's fine to use the shortened version if that's what you prefer.

If you use the longer version then you may have no control over what it gets shortened to. Also some diminutives are so different from the long version that using them would be confusing like naming your dd Margaret but calling her Peggy.

Your child won't be held back in life because you didn't put the long version on the BC. Don't worry if people think it's cutesy as long as you like it that's all that matters.