Hi all,
Due a baby in May and myself and my husband cant decide on what to do about their surname and looking for some feedback on what we should do. For context I didn't take my husbands surname when we got married and I have no intention of ever doing so. We both have long surnames with 3 syllables each. My name is traditionally English and his name traditionally Irish. We have picked a longish name for our Daughter with also 3 syllables (will be shortened to 1 syllable for day to day use). Think along the lines of Regina (Reggy) Carpenter Flanagan (Not real names but the same idea.)
I would like to keep both surnames, without a double barrel and if our daughter wants to drop one when she is older she can. My husband thinks this would be too long, confusing for documents and too hard for her to learn how to spell and basically a pain in the ass! I don't think it would be a big deal, nowadays there are names from every culture and combination and its just something you learn to grow up with. He thinks we should legally register as both surnames but only actively use one day to day for ease. He is happy for it to be my surname if needs be, he is not pushing his own, just wants to make life easy, but I think he deserves to be represented as her father with his surname and I really want his name used as well as mine.
Opinions please, is a really long surname a pain in the ass, do your kids have your and your partner surnames? Is it really a big deal?
We live in Ireland if that makes any difference with registering the baby's name if anyone knows?!