Middle name dilemma...

[Willow4987]

So our DS2 first name is chosen but we’re stuck on the middle names

I want both of our fathers names as the middle names but my DH only wants one (and has suggested my dads name)

His reasoning is that he wants it to be more useable and thinks 2 middle names is too long

I don’t think it is as the first name is relatively short and I feel like we would offend his dad if we didn’t include him, when we would be having my dads name iyswim

What would you do?

Use both if thats what you want. You can have as many middle names as you want, I don't understand why people think they are limited to one only.

Who really uses/thinks about middle names anyway? Mine is Louise in common with millions of women in their 40s and I never think about it.

Honouring both your dads is a great idea.

I think both middle names is a good idea too. You're not exactly going to be calling the child all 3 names on a day to day basis are you? Just by the first name I assume?
I'd say go for it it's a nice idea and I think both dad's would love it.

Both of my children have two middle names (as does my dad) so I say go for it. We've used family names in both instances.

My DS names are three syllables, two syllables, one syllable, surname two syllables.

My DD has two middle names but they're hyphenated (simply because the names worked well that way). Hers are two syllables, two syllables-one syllable.

If you like the names then I really don't think it matters.

It's hardly Princess Consuela Banana Hammock territory!

Use both. No brainer.

What’s his first name out of interest

Use both or neither. Not just one grandfather's name.

Thanks everyone! I’m still wanting both names I think it’s only fair

His first name will be Henry

Whose surname will the baby have?
Assuming the baby will share a surname with his paternal grandfather, you should definitely give baby your dad's name as a middle name.
Alternatively, do your dad and FIL share a middle name by any chance? eg both middle name John or something? If so you could use that.

What's DS1's middle name?

Which grandfather is represented in the surname out of interest? I used a family name from each family as middle names then realised my son had two names from his paternal grandfather and only one from his maternal grandfather. I also find that a lot of documents drop his second middle name which was the one from my family aa it flowed better.

He will have my husbands surname (so paternal grandfathers)

DS1 has my husbands maternal grandfathers name as his middle name

Unfortunately there’s no common theme amongst the names so it’s going to have to be a choice of both or just my dads

So DS1 has a middle name and surname from your husband's side.
DS2 will have the same surname from your husband's side.
It would be fair for DS2 to have a middle name from your side.
I also think if you have more than one child you should ideally stick to the same number of middle names for each one.

My DS has two surnames (mine and DH's) and his middle name is my grandad's name although there are also people on DH's side with the name as well. DC2 will have a middle name from DH's side.