Baby name regret

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Long story but baby is 6 months old and we are having a complete wobble over our name choice. Would you stick it out and hope the feeling fades, or would you bite the bullet and change it?
Anyone else felt like this?

I love Lois - go for it !

A friend of mine named her daughter Lois, people made an anagram out of it and called her, "Soil". Don't let that put you off though :-).

What's so bad about a popular name? When my son was at school there were so many called David and Nicholas; they had snooker tournaments - 'Daves V Nicks'! There were also many girls called Sarah, Rachel, Louise, Amy and Emma. Nice names though, timeless classics, no one is going to make fun of them because of their name. It's probably the same with your daughter's name unless it's one of the very trendy common ones.

However it's up to you.

Lois is gorgeous. Go for it!

@girlsname do you still actually like the name? Because even with top 5 names these days it’s very rare you come across 6 people with the same name in one class or group. Have a look at the actual statistics of the name as you may find that you don’t come across anyone else with the name for some time now. There’s no Oliver’s at my daughters school for example

We changed my daughter's name spelling and the best decision we made. 100% the right decision. We were so scared to tell everyone we know, but it was fine! We did it in stages, I started my with my mum - she was completely supportive so that gave me the confidence to tell the rest of my family who were supportive, then my husband's. Then we got her birth certificate changed and doctors etc and then announced on social media and we were done! I didn't end up with one negative comment. Obviously it's a bit different to a full name change but build your confidence telling people, the official side of things is very straight forward before a year. I would just say try to decided ASAP and get it sorted either way so your LO can get used to it.

@YappityYapYap yes got it!

And thank you @PlantPotting - that was our thinking when we chose the name actually, maybe just bad luck that we've met so many in the last 6 months. Two in my daughters class, two of her friends sisters, my friends just had a baby and named her the same 🤦‍♀️

I love Lois, bite the bullet and change her name!

There is a reason why some names are so popular.. because they are usually really lovely names. So I wouldn't change for that reason alone. My DS has a top 10 name, I initially tried to avoid top 10 but I just loved his name too much so don't care now.

But if you are struggling to connect your daughter with the name and feel she is better suited to Lois or another name then I would say change it.

If it’s not the right name for her, and you don’t connect it with her, change it. If it’s just because it’s popular then I wouldn’t because that doesn’t prevent it being the right name for her, if you see what I mean. My DS’s name is towards the bottom of the top 50, but there are 5 others at his nursery, although he’s the only one with his nickname. It’s never worried me because his name is so undeniably him.

Ava is a great name- I actually don’t know any little ones with this name but yes can see it’s number 3 in the charts. I actually think you’ve been quite ‘unlucky’ there coming accross 6. Do you actually prefer the name Lois to Ava ?

I think Lois is a bit of a middle aged lady name. If the name is Ava why not just change to something similar like Ada or Eva? I know Eva is popular too but 🤷🏻‍♀️
Then what happens if you go somewhere and there are a few Lois'?

If Ava had been the name you wanted and connected with I doubt you'd be bothered about it being popular. But you had a different name that you felt pressured out of using.

I would change it while she's still so little. I don't see the point in trying to force yourself to like and connect with a name you don't when it's unnecessary!

I like Lois but dislike Ava. It makes me think of Eva Braun.

In Wales, Lois is often pronounces Loyce, but I know of at least one Lois
Lo-is).
It's a biblical name so is classic and timeless.

I'd definitely change it.

I was persuaded into using Ava for my youngest and regretted it massively in the first year, felt it was too common but I love it now, she's nearly 10, only one other Ava in her primary school, my sons have more unusual names and I regret not calling them something more normal and traditional but too late now they are teenagers

Lois is a really ugly name to me. Sorry! I find the spelling and sound ugly.
Having said that, if Ava doesn’t fit her properly, change it to Lois. It’s better that you’re happy with her name

Op I could have written your post! We had a name sorted for Dd1, but when she was born (my fault) I changed my mind to a name I'd loved forever, but didnt check on popularity...I think it's been number 1 or 2 for the past 3 years!

At 6 months had the convo to change it to the original but didnt and kind of wish we had now (shes 2, we've had another daughter now who's 1, far too late for everyone).

I'd change it

I like them both. Sorry no help.
There’s a lot of girls named Ava though. So if you want something more rare go with Lois.

Ava to me is nicer than Lois...but pick whatever u like more as you don’t want regret

Doesn't matter what people like. Pick what YOU like. It s definitely not too late

Lois is lovely. Ava is so overused now

Ava is gorgeous not keen on Lois

It’s very strange to imagine the feeling and process of name regret until you’ve been through it, you don’t necessary understand the feelings of the mum or dad going through it as such . Saying whether Ava is better than Lois is not really helping/ supporting the mum as that’s not what she reaching out for support for. It is absolutely fine to change your little ones name if you wish and if you don’t feel comfortable with her name at the moment , only you and your DH can decide and as others has said it’s about what YOU want , not what others think or feel you should do. I just want you to know it fine if you change it tho , be happy :)

I really like Lois and Ava. I think, like you said op, give Lois a go for a week and see how it feels. If you then decide to change just be set on decision and go for it.