Can I use the same middle names for both daughters?!

[lvra]

Hi,

My first daughters middle name is after my mum, she passed away when I was a teenager, I've been wondering would it be strange for my second daughter to have the same middle name to?! Has anyone else ever done this?

Obviously the name does mean a lot to me because it was my mums name but I also just love the name.

Thank you in advance!!

My ds has dh's name as his middle name. If we had another boy I would consider using it again.

I think it's fine.

I think it’s probably fairly common, but because we don’t ask people’s middle names as a matter of course we don’t always realise!

I know of two families who’ve used the same middle name for sets of siblings, and another couple who’ve used a family surname in the same way.

You’ll always get some smartarse raising an eyebrow but personally I think it’s a lovely way to honour a loved one.

I know one family with three children who all have the same middle name. Go for it.

No, use different name maybe similar meaning or same initial but not exact same name.

My ds has my surname as a middle name (dh surname as his surname, I didn’t change my name). If we had more children I’d do the same.

I think using the same name is okay, but if you really didn't want to perhaps you could use your mum's middle name? (If you like it of course!)

Ah thank you for the suggestions! Unfortunately my mum didn't have a middle name, but I like the idea of using a similar name instead. Her name was fleur, which obviously means flower in French so maybe I could look for similar names or it in a different language

My brother and I (female!) have the same middle name, it’s my dads middle name after a family member. I would go for it, in honour of your mum.

Typed slow, not a smart arse honestly, but what about honouring your MIL by using her middle name?
I can't explain why properly but it just doesn't seem right to use a name again when there's so much choice out there. It seems a bit lazy or uncaring, which I am sure you are not.

@laundryelf my husband has no relationship with his mother so he wouldn't want to use her name I wouldn't of thought. I do agree, I would like our second daughter to have something different. I'm going to look for a similar name.

You could give your DD2 your name as a middle name.

No to me it is not personal. I knew a family of 3 brothers between them I think there were 4 names. One middle name was another first name ect. It showed real lack of imagination.

If your mum was born in a convenient month you could maybe use that to honour her? Eg June?

Or perhaps her surname or maiden name? Her own mother’s ie your maternal grandmother’s name?

Ahh these are all such good suggestions! My mum was born in May, May is also my grandmother (who I am very close to) middle name. I think May is very commonly used but it does have meaning to me.

My friend's two daughters have her middle name as one of their two middle names. I also know a family where all five children, boys and girls, have the same unisex middle name. It's not something I'd do, but it's not uncommon.

I was about to say maybe one of your grandmothers name as an alternative- perhaps your mum’s mum’s name?

I would use May if I were you.
Sorry you lost your mum at a young age

If you REALLY love the name use it as a first name?

laundryelf you are being constructive and thoughtful, which is basically the opposite of smartarse! 😂

I honestly don’t think it shows a lack of imagination though, or that it’s a shame not to use another name you like - I just think It’s a nice way to honour your mum, and to give your girls something to share (I know that presumably they’ll share a surname too, but you know what I mean!)

Likewise though I think it’s lovely to use May - goes nicely with Fleur. Or maybe Rose/Rosalie or similar? Daisy?

I have the same middle name as my sister and my mum, and now my DD also has it! No problem whatsoever, definitely not weird, and hardly anyone would even know!

Most (if not all) of the women in my generation of family (sisters/cousins etc) have the same middle name, not sure if it's a Catholic thing tho for us (note to self, ask mum why). I'd say go for it, it's special to you for a reason

I like this idea. Hate using same or similar first names for cousins but this is different.

I don't see what not or if your mum had a second name, you could use that. Also spellings can sometimes be varied.

May is such a lovely middle name. It goes with most first names.

Flora would be nice.