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Not sure I love my baby's name anymore

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BergamotMouse · 18/09/2019 18:56

We called our baby Sebastian.

I felt a little rushed as after a week everyone was badgering us for a name. I really loved it at the time but as times gone on it feels really odd to say his name. Every time I say it it just doesn't feel right. It's too late to change it and he responds to his name.

Will he grow into his name?

Any positive comments on the name Sebastian to help me love it once again?

(Please don't make me sad with negative comments)

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BergamotMouse · 18/09/2019 19:42

81Byerley - your grandson is very lucky to have a grandparent like you.

I'm sure I will get used to the name, especially once his personality starts to develop.

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jitterbugg · 18/09/2019 19:43

My brother is Sebastian (Bash)
It is my DS middle name.
I love if

Paddy1234 · 18/09/2019 19:43

I love the name Sebastian!

OhLookHeKickedTheBall · 18/09/2019 19:46

I love the name Sebastian. Lots of room for nicknames. Sadly it doesn't go with the surname at all so we didn't use it.

Beebea28 · 18/09/2019 19:48

Hi OP, I do had major name wobbles and I regretted naming my child a longer formal name that I didn’t feel was her as we said from day one She would be known as the short name which isn’t the obvious shortening and one a lot of people in the real world other than mumsnet don’t even no it’s short for the longer name. After 4 months we ( my husband and I) decided to change it. I was so Down about registering the longer name and not the name She is known as and decided to make the change when she was 4 months. I just wanted to send my love and virtual hugs as I know how this can consume your thoughts which if you haven’t been through this other people don’t tend to understand as much. please do what you what to do not what others think.

OvalCanvas · 18/09/2019 19:49

I felt similarly about the name we chose for our youngest. I realised after a few weeks that the full version is a bit 'big' for him while he's a baby , we shortened the name and it suits him perfectly.

Fwiw, I like Seb.

Congratulations btwSmile

Fivebeanchilli · 18/09/2019 19:50

I totally love Sebastian.

riotlady · 18/09/2019 19:51

We nicknamed the foetus Pip when we found out I was pregnant and when my daughter was born it felt so strange to call her by her real name instead of Pip! It definitely felt weird for a while but I got used to it and I can’t imagine calling her anything else now

BethanyGilbert · 18/09/2019 19:51

Bash is a cute NN for Sebastian.

AmericanLemonade · 18/09/2019 19:54

Love the name Sebastian, it was on the list if DD had been a boy. Her name is Imogen and it took ages to get used to calling her anything but ‘Bean’. She’s 8 next month and I can’t imagine her going by any other name.

nespressowoo · 18/09/2019 19:55

I love Sebastian - it is on my list for when we have no2 Smile

pictish · 18/09/2019 19:57

Sorry again, I did skim read.

It feels weird calling your baby any name you choose rather than ‘baby’.
I’m sure you’ll grow to like it.
Apologies.

HeadLikeAFuckinOrange · 18/09/2019 19:59

I really like it, OP!

Are you maybe having trouble connecting such a strong sounding name to a tiny baby? They do grow into them, honest!
Far much more than a 35yr old bank manager called Tiger, or a CEO called Tinkerbell.

I had my heart set on Alexandra for DD1, there was no other name ever chosen and we used it. But for the first few months it didn't feel like 'her' name at all.
I didn't use it in pregnancy, she was Bean, or Squish.

But I've no regrets at all, she has grown into a lovely young woman who really suits her name, and always did...it just felt a very grown up name for my baby at the time.

EnriqueTheRingBearingLizard · 18/09/2019 20:01

As others have said, if you really want to it can be changed, but, not that my opinion matters I think it’s a lovely name when a formal full name is called for and it’s guaranteed he’ll actually be known as some shorter pet or nickname as he gets a bit older. You could actually choose one now, there are lots of possibilities and opportunities to do with his personality as it forms.

My DCs are grown up now and they’re always known by nicknames that have nothing to do with their given names. One of them has a given name I love and while I like another’s I would never choose it now and have always regretted it. The important thing though, is that they actually like it.

I think that these days and especially on MN , there’s a self induced pressure for perfection. Don’t let that get to you to doubt yourself, but if you truly are unhappy know that you can do something about it. What would you choose instead?

Terriergrrrrrrrr · 18/09/2019 20:09

Lovely name. He'll grow into it.

Betty777 · 18/09/2019 20:14

I love it, it was my other choice for my DS. Lucky we didnt' go with it, as his best school friend is now 'Bastian'.

One of the reasons I think I like it in the first place is that I've known a couple of charming and handsome men called Seb :-)

KipperTheFrog · 18/09/2019 20:15

Loved both my DD's names before they were born, and love them now. But there was definitely a period where I thought "wtf have we done?" I think it's normal to feel that way.
You chose that name for a reason, because you loved it. You will love it again.

Thatnovembernight · 18/09/2019 20:18

I love the name. One of my friends has one always known as Seb and he’s great. I love Bastian as NN too. Good choice Smile

thisusernameismine · 18/09/2019 20:18

Sebastian was my top boy name! But we had a girl. Seb is what my husband would have called him, I quite liked Basti. Sebastian is from my favourite childhood film, never ending story. It's a wonderful name xx

bridgetreilly · 18/09/2019 20:20

I would try not to think about it too much. Soon enough the name won't even register as a name, it'll just be him and you won't even think about it.

NoSauce · 18/09/2019 20:40

It’s a bit odd that you need strangers on the internet to tell you they like the name.

YOU need to love it OP. It doesn’t matter that others think it’s nice or their brother/son has the same name.

It sounds like you’re unsure. It’s a big thing, think hard whether this is the right name for your son.

Courtney555 · 18/09/2019 20:42

Bash is a cute NN for Sebastian.

Oh it really is!

MunsteadWood · 18/09/2019 20:44

I love the name Sebastian but more importantly I wanted to reassure you that I felt this way about my DSs name for at least the first six months or so, probably longer (I lose track now). I also felt rushed into a decision and DH and I just couldn't agree on a name. We ended up going with one I liked but didn't love, just because it was the only one we found that neither of us disliked. I found the more other people used the name the more I got used to it, and particularly as DS started to learn his name and respond to it it started to feel like "him". Now he's aged nearly 2 and says his name all the time, I can't imagine him being called anything else! But for at least the first six months or so I was convinced we'd made a terrible mistake and could barely bring myself to say his name, thinking up all kinds of silly nicknames to call him instead. What I'm saying is that I think it's not uncommon to feel this way and am sure your DS will grow into his name in time.

AuroraBor · 18/09/2019 20:55

Love it! I know 4 Sebastians and all of them are charming, caring and very talented , so have the best associations with the name.

On the other hand, you not being too attached to the name might not be so bad. If your son will not like his name growing up you'll be more open to letting him change it and picking one himself. (Know a girl who hated hers but it was a struggle with her parents to get it changed.)

SylvanianFrenemies · 18/09/2019 21:05

I know one, he's 11,known as Seb or Sebby. Really cool and distinctive.

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