Help, we can’t agree on a name for our baby girl

[Mama2harris]

So DH and I can’t agree in a name for our baby girl. Out of the 46 names I like he doesn’t really like any of them. I like old fashioned but sweet names, he’s given me no names at all to go on.

In need of suggestions please... xxx

All of the names that he’s said no to are:

Abigail,
Alice
Amelia
Annabelle
Annabella
Ava
Beatrice
Bella
Bethany
Charlotte
Daisy
Dawn
Dorothy
Edith
Eleanor
Elena
Eliza
Elizabeth
Eloise
Evelyn
Felicity
Florence
Francesca
Georgia
Georgina
Harriet
Helena
Henrietta
Imogen
Isabella
Isabelle
Josephine/Josie
Lola
Maisie
Matilda
Natalia
Olivia
Penelope
Phoebe
Renee
Rosie
Scarlett
Sienna
Sophia
Victoria
Zara

What are his suggestions?

Interesting that all he does is pooh pooh your suggestions, how helpful. I'd find that really annoying.
I think you've got loads of great names there, I wouldn't suggest anymore to him until he's come up with at least 3 of his own.

Barbara and Exit, he gave one, Natalie which I don’t like, I said we could compromise on Natalia which is on my list and he said no as it’s too complicated for a child to say!

I’ve now given him the list of names and told him to add the ones he likes at the bottom,

With our son we agreed on a name straight away but Just worried that In a couple of months when she’s born that our poor sweet little girl won’t have a nice name cos he keeps putting off choosing a name and then says no to everything I like :(

Deciding on a name is so hard. We went through this. Will so many NOs to each other's suggestions. The best person to help us was my 10 year old step daughter. Kids are good at suggesting names:) We settled on Madeleine (Maddy for short).
Or look back at both family trees. See if any names or middle names seem nice. Good luck.

My husband is an absolute pain so I decided I was having none of it this time round (number 3). So instead of doing all the leg work pandering to his nonsense when he was coming up with nothing himself - just said ‘ok I’ve decided on x.’ At first he’d say ‘I don’t like x’.
‘Well never mind I love it & you’ll come round’.
Played hard ball for a while & suddenly he’s become so much more amenable & even seems to know how to do his own reading & come up with suggestions

We still haven’t agreed anything but I definitely think just deciding not to play that game anymore opened his mind!

Does he understand that your child will grow up and be able to say their name eventually?! What a silly reason.

Natalia is a good start.

Gosh that’s so annoying... I don’t like all the names on your list but there are some really lovely ones on there.
What he needs to do is write a list of names he likes and you need to check if you like any of them.
What is your DS name? We could give suggestions based on that.
Anyway, here are some wildcards:
Violet
Cora
Adelaide / Adeline
Delilah
Elise
Etta
Hazel
Iris
Nora
Audrey
Rosanna
Victoria
Belle
Ada / Ida
Juliet
Lila / Lyla
Stella
Elsa
Arabella
Martha
Aurelia

Maybe Zoë?

He does sound annoying!

Kate/Catherine
Rosa
Harriet
Freya
Julia
Zora

Eliza is a lovely name ...def my favourite from your list.

Oh just seen Victoria was already vetoed! Let us know what you go for in the end OP

If he won't suggest anything, give him a list of your three favourite names and tell him to choose one.

Well Natalie is a nice name .... And using Natalia wouldn’t be a compromise as it is on your list but not on his! You can’t really get annoyed at him for not liking Natalia when you don’t like Natalie!

What about:
Otillie
Amelie
Natasha
Emily
Naomi

Either he comes up with a list of ten names he likes, or you just get to pick the name on your own. Simply saying he doesn't like anything is not helpful.

He is normally very controlling @Mama2harris ?

He says No to all your suggestions?

Name your beautiful little girl whatever your heart was set on and tell him to shush!

Usually I’d say you both have to agree and love the name etc etc but in this instance he’s refusing to even engage with the process. Can he really not come up with a list of 10 names he likes?! If not then I would just go with whatever you like as he’s clearly not interested in choosing a name together. I don’t think there’s much point in adding to your already massive list of perfectly nice names as he’ll probably just so no.

Hi @Sunflowers211 not at all, he’s usually really good at compromise or giving in and letting me get my own way but naming a child is different. It needs to be a mutual agreement not me getting my own way xx

But he shouldn't be holding you both back and now you're worried your girl won't have a name. So he needs to work with you now to narrow the choices down. Pretty tricky to do if he's not making any. He sounds rather difficult.

Patricia. Amy. Elsie. Esther. Catherine (cath/Cathy/cat). Katie. Jennifer. Jessica. Jocelyn. Camille. Millicent. Poppy. Judith (Judy). Courtney. Saskia. Kylie. Trudy. Lois. Martina (Tina)

Natasha?

Nadia
Nadine
Naomi
Nanette (might be too out there)
Eleanor NN Nell/Nellie
Nicole
Nancy
Just trying to think of other N names!

Nora?

Don't stress, op. We didn't name ours until she'd been born a couple of weeks. It really doesn't matter if you don't manage to find a name beforehand.

Personally, I think your list it to long in the first place.
The list looks really overwhelming, like when you're in a shop and can't decide which laundry detergent to buy because there's 30 different choices.

Whittle it down to your top 4, there will be one or two amongst the list you will like more than the others and there lies your compromise.

I genuinely don't think men like too many options. When going through the book, my husband was like nope nope nope - The second I wrote down my top 3 names, he was like 'yeah I really like that.' good luck! :)

Jillian