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Cold feet on baby name at the last second!

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Idhrenniel · 09/09/2019 07:09

Hi all, I'm currently 36 weeks pregnant with a little girl and me and DH picked out a name fairly early on for her (Verity Eliza). I started out absolutely loving the name and unable to find anything even close to it but now I'm wondering if it's normal to panic if it's right at the last minute. I'm the sort of person who dithers on making decisions and then worries that I made the right one. DH likes it but says it is a bit tricky to say. Did anyone else feel this way about the name they picked? Did you change it or go through with it in the end? How do feel about it now that your baby's been born?

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soupmaker · 09/09/2019 07:12

We had a list of names we liked. We chose once our babies had been born and we'd had a look at them.

AverageMummy · 09/09/2019 07:12

Verity Eliza is beautiful!

But explore other names if you need to

Yoohoo16 · 09/09/2019 07:16

I’m a ditherer. Agonised over a name. Waited until baby was born, discovered she was a girl and gave myself some time to keep looking at her and imagine her as the names we liked. Settled on one and absolutely love it and couldn’t imagine her as anything else. I think it’s normal to have a last minute panic as it totally different throwing names around to having to seriously pick one.

Atalune · 09/09/2019 07:17

Is it a hyphenated first name or is Eliza the middle name?

If it’s her middle name then I think it’s great. Verity is not so uncommon anymore. It’s pretty.

If it’s a double barrelled first name then it’s a bit of a mouthful.

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Idhrenniel · 09/09/2019 07:21

@Atalune It's a middle name, I agree that double-barreled would be a bit much

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31RueCambon75001 · 09/09/2019 07:28

I like it! My only regret is that i didnt pick a 2 syl name as 3 syllables gets nn'd and u have no control over that. You could pick a gorgeous 3 syllable name like verity and realise when she is 18 months old that yr friends family all call her veevee, taking your cue! (Example)
Verity is crying out for a nn in the way eliza is not. Eliza lends itself to a quick ell but verr sounds wrong.
So if u go with verity have your nn ready. Control it.

loutypips · 09/09/2019 07:30

I waited until baby arrived to choose her name. She just didn't 'look' like my favourite name. But I didn't know the sex, so had a long list of girls and boys names ready.

user1493494961 · 09/09/2019 08:13

It's a very pretty name, I would go with it, Eliza Verity is just as nice.

elliex1 · 09/09/2019 08:43

I really like it... but wait till she’s born. You have time - relax!

Morado · 09/09/2019 10:02

I agree with your DH. It is a bit of a mouthful to say. I think it's the V and the Z in each of those names that make them quite harsh. My daughter has a middle name that flows beautifully with her first name and I love being able to say them both together.

Letthemysterybe · 09/09/2019 10:10

I think they are both lovely names. I don’t think that matters if they are a mouthful together as it is rare to use the middle name. I agree that people will want to shorten Verity, so come up with your own nn or she will end up being called ‘Ver’.

Janefx40 · 09/09/2019 10:19

Yes I worried about our name and we didn't tell anyone for a week. I don't want to add to your stress but I still worry about it 7 months later. I definitely like it but it is a bit unusual and I sometimes wish I had picked a more straightforward name (plus it sounds like another name so I have to keep saying "not x but y")!!! But I also love it. I'm a ditherer too, can you tell?!

It's really hard naming a person! I think it is normal to worry but equally if you really don't want to use it (and it goes beyond nerves) then make a change. You're going to be saying it a lot.

Imagine yourself going around your town telling people her name (people stop you all the time and ask when you have a baby). Do you feel happy saying it? If so, go for it!!

They are pretty names BTW but it doesn't matter what I think - people will always feel differently about names so you can't please everyone x

MyCatDrinksFlatWhites · 09/09/2019 10:20

That’s a lovely name!

We were down to a shortlist of three. DP had his heart set on a particular first name, I preferred a second, a third was on the table, and we both agreed on the middle name.

Once he was here, I called DS a different first name each day for the first three days we were at home (yes, I know it sounds weird) - which totally helped us decide as my favourite (Samuel) just wasn’t his name. We ended up going with our third option, which really suits him, and DP’s favourite as one of his two middle names. So I would say to hold off on a final decision until she’s here, as you will know after a day or two of trying it out whether it’s “her name”, in my experience.

BlueChampagne · 09/09/2019 12:46

Don't forget that you won't be saying both names together very often unless they are hyphenated.

Sexnotgender · 09/09/2019 12:50

It’s lovely!

We had a shortlist of 2/3 names we both agreed on and decided about an hour after his birth.

Disfordarkchocolate · 09/09/2019 12:55

With my daughter, her planned first name became her middle name because it just didn't feel right. It took a week to find a new name.

Verity Eliza is beautiful, once you've stopped telling people your babies name you will hardly ever use her middle name. Largely for forms and telling off is my experience.

Antonin · 09/09/2019 13:24

Verity makes a charming first name.

jomaIone · 09/09/2019 13:33

It's hardly the last second!!! You still have potentially 6 weeks to go! We had no idea what name we would use until my daughter was born. Didn't know if she was girl or boy and had 5 names on each list! Stop fretting and relax.

MissHenty · 09/09/2019 13:37

Verity is such a gorgeous name- I wish it was my name!

I think you need to accept that NO name is “perfect”. Especially if you’re indecisive (I can completely relate).

I chose a name for my son but I’ve dithered about it ever since. But I STILL (3 years later) don’t know what I would want to call him instead!!! You don’t even get to “know” a child’s personality for at least a year or two so I really think of you like Verity and you and DH agree, you should stick with it

Frith2013 · 09/09/2019 14:29

Verity is lovely. Eliza sounds like an old crone.

DramaAlpaca · 09/09/2019 15:49

I think it's normal to second guess yourself about names. Wait & see what she looks like, but I think Verity Eliza is a nice combination.

HannahC86 · 09/09/2019 17:59

I agree with Janefx40, try it out when strangers ask. That really helped me when I was down to three. There was one name that (I thought) was really beautiful, that just never felt right whenever I used it! I felt strange saying it, borderline awkward! Still love the name, but not for our family.

Whattodo20192 · 09/09/2019 20:48

This happened to me a few months ago. Name picked out at 20 weeks, I changed my mind and starting doubting it at 38 weeks. We went ahead with the name anyway, he's 3 months old now and I'm still not sure if I like it now

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