Which would you choose?

[Fortunesrocks]

Our son is due in 5 weeks, and we have been settled on Jude since day one, but have gone back and fourth with middle names. Neither of us have loved our top three so to speak, so we started talking about family names. We both agreed on Samuel and Davies. My brother is Samuel, and my mother's last name is Davies.

Davies for my mother? Or Samuel after my brother? I don't want to upset either one of them, because I know they'd both be honoured and it's a topic we've spoken about together over the last few days. I love the idea of Davies because the name will die with my mum as she's the last living Davies, as all of her sisters are married. And it would be nice for my son to carry the name on. It would be a great way to honour her. But I love Samuel after my brother and I know he'd be so honoured too. So stuck.

Jude Samuel (lastname) or Jude Davies (lastname)?

Why not both?

I’d use both

I prefer Jude Samuel

Use both.

I'd use both. Jude is a wonderful name.

Jude Samuel Davies (surname) is distinguished and special.

Easily solved. Jude Samuel Davies Lastname.

Job done.

Is it possible your brother will have his own children, or that you will have more? In other words, there could be other babies that could be given family names so you don't necessarily need to treat this as the last chance for there to be baby Samuel or Davies somewhere along the way.

I'm in favour of using both, but DH doesn't like the idea, says it will be too long. I don't think so, but we can't come to the agreement.

Another vote for using both.

I love the idea of both. I'm going to put it to DH again. He has said previously if we are using two of my family names his family may be left out, but neither of us like any of his families names? So I don't see why we can't just use both names we love. I love the idea of Jude Samuel Davies (lastname).

Jude Samuel Davies rolls of the tongue very well

Use both. My niece has 2 middle names and frankly I'm a bit jealous I only thought of giving my dcs the one!

Davies definitely - assuming the brother is alive? It’s far less common to reflect sibling names so I’m sure he wouldn’t be offended

Jude Samuel Davies is lovely

Jude Davies.

It's fine to use a name from your family and not one from his but if you use two from your family and none from his that could cause offence.

Also your brother might have children or you could use Samuel for a subsequent child.

Samuel

Jude Samuel Davies Surname is lovely.

My ds has a 4-letter first name, then a 6-letter middle name (dh's side) and my maiden name then surname

Davies. Definitely mother over brother.

Use both. Is the baby having DHs surname? If so then his family is represented already through that. I think the three names together sounds great.

Jude Samuel Davies. But if you really can only have one, then Jude Samuel. If you plan to have another child, you could use Davies then.

If the baby has your husband's family's surname, then I don't see how they could possibly complain. Surnames are more important and more widely used than middle names, after all.

Jude Samuel Davies

another vote for both but if I had to choose it would be Davies, to continue the name. I also like the way it looks.

I’d use both. Your in laws are represented by the surname.