Double barreling surname?

[PoppingOneOutIn2020]

Me and DP arent married, its something I want eventually now! but hes very settled and he said he will get married one day but is fine as we are, which is absolutely fair enough, no rush! But I cant shake the feeling that he just isn't marriage type. Hes happy as we are and says that often, he used to say marriage was just a peocee of paper and didnt really see the point. So I think he only says he will one day because he knows it's something I want.

But im 18 weeks pregnant now and im thinking if we never get married I would ideally like some form of name connection to our child..

I grew up with divorced parents and I always felt a little dampened by the fact I didnt share a name with my mum also.

So I'm thinking of talking about double barreling her name, is this reasonable?
Can it be changed to just my name when/if we eventually do get married? Is it easy enough?

I just dont know what to do but it makes me feel abit sad and if I'm honest a little but sick ag the thought of never having the same name as my baby :(

Am I just being silly?

My kids had a double barrelled surname until we got married, step-daughter still has a double barrelled surname.

For airport purposes I stuck my surname in as a middle rather than double barrelling as I wince a bit when hearing double barrells. Plus his surname was easier to spell. Also used it as bargaining chip to give me more weight when choosing DC's forenames!

Give the baby your surname.

You’re feelings are completely justified. A few things:

1. Babies traditionally have their mothers surnames NOT their fathers. It just depended on whether their mothers were married as to what this was hence legitimacy/illegitimacy

1. The baby will have your name automatically at birth as all it’s medical info will be registered as Baby YourSurname unless you change it or add HisSurname on.

I was in your position and I told DP that I wasn’t going to have a different surname to my baby so it was either mine or both.

We’re getting married next year.