Same name

[Green1340]

There is a mum in my local nursery with a baby same age and name as my son. Potentially they will go to the same schools so forever more will be known as name and initial to differentiate them. It’s annoyed me so much :( neither of us copied each other just unfortunate coincidence. Am I making a fuss about nothing? It really is upsetting me. Can people let me know what they think to give some perspective. Am I right to feel like this or am I being stupid maybe. Thanks

Well I cn see it might be annoying for the kids bit are yo u even sure they're likely to end up in the same school?

Also how popular is the name?

It's fairly pointless getting upset and annoyed, what do you mean by making a fussed?

Do either of you use a nickname?

The name is Jessica so a common name but not very popular in our village anymore so I thought it was a good choice until the other one. I just mean making a fuss to myself for getting annoyed about it in the first place. It’s likely they will end up in same school as we live in a small village.

Start calling her Jessie or Jess or Sisi if it bothers you that much , that's what I'd do. My lo had the same and it did bug me a bit but they ended up going to different primary schools

A name is a name? Your child’s name is obviously well liked 😂 no need to get annoyed over a name not like she copied you on purpose is it, just use a nick name for her?

I had a girl in my year same age same name and my mums surname but wasn’t mine legally only on register, people got us confused from time to time & it was abit odd but it’s just a name

Fuss about nothing.

Meh. Jessica is still a popular name, there are heaps of double / triple names in school.

Also they could move away, go private etc.

I went to school with two girls with the same first name and last name, it fine. Both were called Katherine, but one known as Katie.

We later all flatted together, felt sorry for the landlord!

I think you’re definitely making a fuss about nothing (not to the other mum’s face, I hope!)

If you were really sure you wanted your daughter to be the only one in school, you should have called her Xanthippe or Zenobia or something. Jessica has been in the Top 10 for England and Wales since records began, except for 2017 when it was #15. Sorry, but you should have expected to meet lots of others of a similar age

Your son is called Jessica?

There is a mum in my local nursery with a baby same age and name as my son.

Assume that you mean your daughter not your son 😳

2 boys named Jessica would certainly be unusual to say the least !!

Do you mean same first name and surname? I once had that with one of mine. I only realised when the doctor’s kept muddling up the children. Same first name - and quite unusual one then - and surname, on the same - very long- street. Born in the same year but not the same month.

Two boys called Jessica???

Anyway yes you’re being silly - you don’t own a name. And children’s names aren’t designer handbags. Your child won’t care.

There's a kid round here who doesn't just have my son's first name (not that common, persistently round the 50th level for the last 20 years) but also shares his surname! Couldn't believe it when Boots told me I had to be super careful checking prescriptions as both boys were on their system.

Caused no end of hilarity with kids turning up to primary and then secondary being completely thrown by getting an unexpected boy for the name.

Unbelievably, when we moved house just before secondary school allocation deadline, the local authority changed both kids' addresses to my new address, so I was getting welcome packs for 2 different schools.

Never met the kid, although I reckon we saw them at a secondary school open day. Too mobbed to get the dad and ask surnames, though.

So, just be glad it's only one name they share!

In dds reception year there were 5 Hannah's. I think you need to get a grip tbh.

My son is also called Jessica

You can't let it worry you - the girls might not end up at the same school but equally two more Jessicas could move to the area. It's only at school that your DD will be Jessica X.

We actually had two girls in my secondary school who had the exact same first, middle and last name, and date of birth (boxing day). What are the chances?

Yes you're overreacting, I'm sorry to say. I was one of about 3 Claire's in my primary school class, and very rarely had a class in secondary school where there wasn't another one. It just meant putting Claire S on my work when I was little!

You're wrong to be annoyed, but you'll find that it really doesn't matter in the long run.

I was one of 6 in the same class with my name in the 80s (very common name back then)

Maybe you could change your baby's name- to Jesse?
If the other baby is a girl, might she have a slightly stronger claim to the name, as it is usually a girl's name.
Could you use a different spelling? Jesseker or something?

To be fair, finding two boys called Jessica is white unusual. Perhaps you could change his name to Amanda or something?

My older son has an unusual first name. His 2 friends have the same first name and incredibly similar surnames!

Think Fred Perkins, Fred Perkinson and Fred Larkins.

There were 3 Emilys in my daughter's reception class. Emily had been on my shortlist, and I was very pleased we hadn't used it.

In the same class there were 3 Connors.

What can you do about it? It’s a waste of energy to spit about it now, both children are named.

It won't do either of your children any harm to know someone else with the same name as them. You are being a bit ridiculous and precious to be upset about this.

Yes, get a grip and move on. My ds2 has this, my parter was in a primary class with 5 other boys with the same name as him, who cares? I can't believe someone would actually claim to be upset by something so ridiculous.