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My baby doesn't suit her name

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ChristmasCarrot · 22/05/2019 20:34

I don't dislike her name, but it just doesn't suit her. I chose it a week before she was born, as I was struggling to come up with something for her and decided it should 'go with' my elder girl's name.

I know it's really silly, but it's got to the point where it feels weird to even use it and end up changing the ending (from 'a' to 'ie'). I like her name, but when I look at her, I sort of wish I'd chosen something else.

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sleepismysuperpower1 · 22/05/2019 20:36

do you have another name in mind OP? perhaps you could add the name you prefer as a middle name and refer to her as that instead? (eg: Rose Grace Smith would be called Grace rather than Rose) x

17caterpillars1mouse · 22/05/2019 20:38

How old is She?

I felt like this about dd2 for the first month or 2 but now her nane is hers and I can't imagine her as anything else

Calloway · 22/05/2019 20:39

She's a baby. She doesn't have a notion whether she's called Isabella or Salmonella. Change her name to something you prefer. Is your partner on the same page?

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ChristmasCarrot · 22/05/2019 20:42

She's got middle names that I could use, but it will cause an awful lot of confusion if I do that.

She's 5 months old, so I feel she should suit it by now. I wasn't 100% on my elder daughter's name, but it never felt strange to me.

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ChristmasCarrot · 22/05/2019 20:43

Her dad isn't in the picture.

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Calloway · 22/05/2019 20:45

Do you have a new name in mind? If you're worried about what people will think, don't. It will cause a minor stir among those who know you but by the time her first birthday rolls around everyone will have forgotten she started life with a different name

diddlediddle · 22/05/2019 20:46

If you have an alternative to change it to then go ahead. People won't be confused - you'll say that you've changed her name from x to y because it suited her better and that will be the end of it.

Summerorjustmaybe · 22/05/2019 20:48

Anything that is distracting you from enjoying your baby needs sorting!! It's a matter of making an appointment at the registrars that's all!!

simbobs · 22/05/2019 20:49

Much better to change it now if you really want to, rather than wait until she is older. That would be much more confusing.

Chocmallows · 22/05/2019 20:51

My DD suggested her younger brother's name and her dad (exH) jumped on it as liked it too. It was a name I'd never liked, but they loved. He was born, named and straight away I used the shortened version (think Will not William). Roll on years and everyone uses Will and I love it.

Can you shorten her name, adapt it or do similar with a middle name? Do it, stick to it, everyone else will follow.

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ChristmasCarrot · 22/05/2019 20:53

It's not what other people think of the name, I just don't want to act irrationally.

She already has a passport, will I have to pay for a new one? Or will it be amended?

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ChristmasCarrot · 22/05/2019 20:56

At the moment, I basically change the ending from 'a' to 'ie' (her name is very uncommon, so I can't state it on here). But I think that's purely down to the fact I feel uncomfortable with it, in the first place. I actually quite like it, but when I look at her, it isn't right.

My elder daughter has a reasonably big language delay, so she doesn't talk at all.

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BumbleBeeWineGlass · 22/05/2019 20:57

My DD has a name that both DH and I decided in the delivery room, it was one of two that we could agree on.

For the first 6 months I kept accidentally calling her a third name, no idea why it kept just coming out my mouth. As an example, we both liked Alice and Amelia, her name is Alice but I was calling her EIizabeth?! I have now (she's 4) gotten used to her original name and it seems to suit her, but for that time I was so worried that we'd got it wrong.

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ChristmasCarrot · 22/05/2019 21:33

bumble Alice goes with Elizabeth quite well. I decided a week before she was born, it wasn't even on the list before then, I just wanted a name sorted.

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Awwlookatmybabyspider · 22/05/2019 22:01

With her being under one. I'm sure you can get a fresh BC. If you ate unsure and you do feel changing her name is something you want to consider. Its better to do it sooner rather than later. In a few months or even weeks she'll know her name

PotatoCity · 23/05/2019 16:10

Honestly if you like her name and are happy using it with the ‘ie’ instead of ‘a’, so effectively just using a nickname, then personally I’d stick with it. I really don’t think many babies suit their names as such, they are often a bit too ‘big’ for them, but they grow into them! It depends how much it’s stressing you out though I guess.

Cbeebiesrehab · 23/05/2019 16:22

Is it something like Eva and you’re calling her Evie? So something that could tangibly be a diminutive? If so just call her the ie version and put it on school forms etc.
If it is really bothering you however, and you have an alternative in mind, then change it!
I agree names can feel a bit ‘big’ on babies though.

Crunchymum · 23/05/2019 21:30

Have you changed your mind about the name completely?

Antonin · 23/05/2019 22:20

Do you have any idea about what she DOES look like?

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ChristmasCarrot · 23/05/2019 22:21

Yes, think of a much more exotic Eva, being called Evie.

crunchy yes, but I feel totally ridiculous. I've spoken to my family, they said that her name has grown on them and that they think it's nice. It's not that I'm scared of being judged by anyone else, I'm hugely judging myself.

potato my elder daughter has quite a 'strong' name, but it's never been too harsh on her and can't really be changed into a nickname anyway. Before she was born, I thought it sounded a bit like what a middle-class teacher, who's a bit of a free-spirit would be called. But it fits her well.

Maybe it's just that I rushed into decision about her name, simply because I didn't want to continue a Greek theme (my elder daughter's name is from Greek mythology) or something too old-fashioned. My baby's name is Sanskrit and more common within the Indian community.

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ChristmasCarrot · 23/05/2019 22:24

antonin I would like to change it to the original name choice, but maybe that would be too much of aforementioned Greek theme. Her middle names are family names, the first of which is probably a little bit too old-fashioned. I like it, but probably won't fit a child born at the end of 2018.

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Chocmallows · 23/05/2019 22:35

Change to the original choice if you think it suits her better. Your family will be ok if you make a clear decision now whilst she is still very young.

Astronica · 24/05/2019 09:30

I think you should change it. Other people will get used to the change - you just need to make the decision. It will involve some costs and paperwork, but sounds as if it's worth it for you.

newtlover · 24/05/2019 21:10

I knew someone who changed her baby's name quite drastically (eg from say Jenny to Amanda) at about 6 months. I don't think you could leave it much longer, tbh, babies start to recognise their names.
She will have her name for the rest of her life, you need to be happy with it. Other people will get used to it.

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ChristmasCarrot · 25/05/2019 15:59

Thank you all for your advice

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