Advice needed

[Worrier13]

My dd is 16 weeks old and I've never been keen on her name, I picked it when she was here and not really thinking straight.
I would really like to change it.
However my husband and older dd both like the name and call her by it.
My question is would you look at changing it or would you leave it as it is hoping that 1 day it won't bother you?

You can change it until she is 1 I believe. Give it a bit more time. You're already adjusting to having her here, once you're out of newborn haze you might feel differently. If you don't, you need to have a serious chat with your DH about it.

Did you pick it from a shortlist you already had?

You can change a name at any time, though I believe it's easier in the first 12 months. Continue to consider it, and express to your husband how strongly you feel about it. Is there another name that you know you would prefer? One option is to put another name first and keep the current one, which can still be used by people in the family as a nn.

As someone who has lived with name regret I tend to think it's worth taking very seriously and doing something about early.

I changed my daughters name when she was 3 months. You can change on the original birth certificate as long as they are under one & have not been christened. After that it would be by deepoll so they’d always have to do the ‘formerly known as’ & it wouldn’t be on their birth certificate

My sister changed her baby's names when she was 4 weeks old. first I'd say give it some time, it may grow to you. if you really don't like it, I recommend you sit down with your husband (and dd if she is old enough) and tell them how you feel!

Did you do anything about the name regret and how do you feel now? X

It was from my dh's shortlist but I wasn't in the right frame of mind to make a decision now I am I still have the regret but my dd calls it her all the time and I'm worried she wouldn't use new name or why we have changed it.

I would change it if none of you liked it. It's going to be harder if your DP likes it though.

Would he be onboard with changing it?

Could you find a nn or shortening of the current name that you like?

What is it you don't like about it and do you have an alternative in mind?

My dh said i could change it if it made me feel better but I know as the time goes on he expects me to get used to it, he doesn't understand how hard it is. I also think it would be very hard for my older dd to get used to a new name and worry she would get picked on in school if I change it?

worry she would get picked on in school if I change it?

Huh?

If you don't mind sharing, what is the name?

I worry my older dd would be teased at school if I changed her sister's name? I worry she would be very confused by it all.
It's a name in top 30 of which you can get several nicknames.

Children are very adaptable. Your DD would adjust quickly and other children won't care. If she's old enough to understand, just tell her the truth - that you have her sister one name but you've realised that she seems more like a different name, so you're going to change it.

More importantly, you need to discuss with your partner.

Also, are you ok? Sometimes people worry about their baby's name when they are feeling depressed. See your GP if you're struggling x

I really can't see why your older daughter would be picked on at school if you change it. Just be matter of fact and explain why. I think if you project confidence then your daughter will pick up on this. And, own your feelings - if they are strongly regretful then that's fine - it's what they are, you don't need to be apologetic.