Friend of a friend picked our name

[amlo]

We have picked a baby name we both like.

However, a friend of my best friend has already picked this name for her daughter who is a few months old.

I've never met this friend (although they've been friends for around 10 years). The friend lives in New Zealand and is unlikely to return to the UK (hubby is from NZ). Even if she does return to the UK, it is likely to be around 200 miles from where we like. The name is in the top 100 (around 40-70) depending on the chart.

Is it unreasonable of me to be considering the name?

Use it!

I hate to break it to you probably more than one person you don't know in new Zealand has used that name. Same goes for Australia, America and the U.K. and many more countries I'm sure

It's fine to use stop overthinking.

People are so weird about names these days. The trend of being unique is fine but it doesn’t make it ‘your name’. In previous generations half a family would be Mary John etc which is why some would be nicknamed Jack Polly etc. I can understand why people might enjoy the unique trend - but I doubt you invented the name so it’s not ‘your name’. Someone you’ve never met has also used it. So?

call the baby carpet if you want no one else to share the name

If it is in the top 70 names, your child may be one of many with the name in his or her peer group. Even if you choose an unusual name, you can't guarantee they won't end up in the same circle as someone else with the same name. You might choose the most popular name in the country and find that your child is the only one you know, although that is unlikely. Choose a name you like, and will always like.

This has made me chuckle. You get people asking about using the same name as a cousin, but a friend of a friend I wouldn’t give a second thought to

I wouldn’t give this a second thought.

You’re talking about someone you’ve never met who lives on the other side of the world. What they’ve chosen for their baby name is completely irrelevant.

I think you are seriously overthinking this.
Worry about things that matter not that a random stranger has used the name you like.

Definitely fine to use the name.

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Better not use it. One day you might go to New Zealand on holiday and bump into them. Imagine the embarrassment

@TheSultanofPingu 😂😂😂

Friend of a friend AKA the Monkeys uncle. I'd still use it. Its a total non issue.

Is this a joke? Use the name!

This is a wind up, surely??

In the nicest possible way, that would be a batshit reason to not use a name!

I know 5 children called Matilda who are all born within 12 months of each other. It isn't weird at all. Some of the parents are aware of each other, some aren't. I can tell all the little Matildas apart and have definitely not looked into bulk buying personalised gifts to save money

Ffs 😂

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This is a joke, right?