Massive name wobble!

[namewobble]

DS is around 1 and I'm just not sure about the name. I've never really been sure about it, and he has another very plain name (think Thomas/Matthew etc) which we could use.

Has anyone done this? He's starting to recognise his name and I don't know what to do!

The name is Roman. We liked it because it was unusual, but solid, with nice rounded sounds and it goes with our surname. But I just feel like it's a bit silly. What do Mumsnet think?

Context: we live in a university town, do media-y jobs. Friends kids names range from Poppy/Toby/Leo through to Wren and Athene. If I'm being brutally honest, I'm a bit worried about the class connotations of Roman, though I'd never admit it in public, and I do try not to think like that.

Opinions please!

And I think it's too late to change. My daughter is 11 months old and I feel like I'd confuse her so much to call her by a different name now! She's been answering to her name for months already!

I really like Roman.
Very cool kid at school was called Roman.
Fwiw I permanently wobble over dc1 and dc3 names , dc2’s name is the only one I still like, I don’t love it though. I blame dh mostly.

I really like it

Honestly, it’s not too late to change it if you want to. Babies of a year will ‘answer’ to anything if you say it often enough. They’ll very soon ‘answer’ to a different name, they won’t have any recollection of the original name. Bonkers to say it’s too late to change it.

You've done well there Turquoise, I had to make a very conscious effort to stop just addressing him as 'baby/the baby' and use his name!

I like it. Ex-teacher, can be a bit snobby about names. Never taught a Roman, so that gets it a tick. Nice sounds, strong / noble / intelligent connotations in my mind. Double tick. Easy to spell - big tick!!

Could be worse, could be Tudor.

I've taught a couple of them

Roman is a really nice name. The only connotation I'd have in mind is that it's quite Eastern European, which is a good thing. I'd imagine a Roman to be much more private school than council estate if that is what you worry about. Keep the name.

Tudor is a classic Welsh name.

I think the opposite to Petra.

Love Roman and I'm not aware of any class connotations. If anything I imagine a boy that comes from a literary sort of family, or a somewhat arty one. It was on my list if this baby was a boy.

I'm not particularly keen on Roman, but don't strongly dislike it either. For me it just makes me think of Days of our Lives and American soapies (yes gives away my age as over 40) and I only watched the show a bit during my pregnancy. I don't think younger people make that connection though. I don't see it as a bad name though, just not one I would choose.

Try calling him the alternative name at home for a bit to see how much you prefer it. It's really up to you and not too late to change if it's important to you. If you change to a middle name you don't even need to make any official changes.

I really dislike this name but mainly because I used to work with a child with the name who was particularly difficult....I’ve always thought it was a very Eastern European name rather than belonging to a particular class

Roman is a great name,I love it