Me and DP have fallen in love with a name but nervous about telling people

[cargghhh]

We have 1 DS and when we named him we had some comments from people, mainly MIL, straight away suggesting alternatives so clearly not a fan! Most people we meet new do say "oh that's different".... but we love it and think it's a strong boy name at all ages.

We struggled LOADS in finding a girl name we liked as we are now pregnant with baby #2 (already have our boy option decided!) but we have now found one we are both completely in love with. I am however nervous of people's reactions to it again?! People mishearing us when we tell them, or not really "getting" it as a name.

I'd much rather not say the name but has anyone had this with their choice of names or know how best to deal with it?

Choose a name you like and don't worry what others think (unless it's something made up). Your child, your choice.

Oh and do t tell others (in real life) as you may not hear what you want to hear.

Don't tell people until after the baby is born. Announcing the birth of xxx or introducing xxx to someone will generally mean that people won't give their unwanted opinion on the name.

Don't tell anyone till the baby arrives. And if there's any negativity - who cares? It's short term. People are not going to be critcising when your child is 15 are they? They'll just know your child by their name and love them.

Don’t tell people until the baby is here.

When you introduce her, go all out “This is our beautiful girl Chlamydia, isn’t she wonderful?” If you are hesitant about saying it or just say the name, people are more likely to jump on it.

If someone is rude enough to still comment on it, just blink and ask them why they would be so rude about your daughter’s name?

I hate people who think they should have a say in other people’s Baby names. Unless it’s something that is actively going to cause the child/adult hassle later in life (made up names, random jumble of letters etc) then everything else is just a matter of personal taste.

Announce name of baby when they meet baby.

Or on social media on announcing baby's arrival with a Welcome to the World X Name! post.

Then all anybody can do is post congratulations or they look like a git.

Thank you all so much you've made me feel a lot better about it now. Especially @Dyrne you gave me quite a giggle

We will keep the name to ourselves until baby arrives, that was probably our error with our son! And hope no one is so forthcoming with their comments as last time

Some people are just rude! Mil recently had a go at my dh because we hadn’t named our new baby after her. If you love it, then go with it. If you’re not sure because actually you’re not convinced it’s right then maybe give it more thought...

I really do think it's a beautiful name @pasbeaucoupdegendarme it's just everyone in both our families choose much more "mainstream" names, which is great for them if they like them but we're just so super picky! I'm happy we finally find a name we both agree on

Agree, just don’t tell anyone in advance. But do be sure you’ve got it spelled it correctly- no pheobe, for example.

Is it Granville?
I love it.

Traditionally in Finland the baby is only known as "baby" until the christening or naming party takes place and is announced then. Try that?

I hated giving lists of names as ideas as people always turned their noses up.
Charlotte - my mum said sounded like Scarlet fever 🙄
Francesca - Franny, fanny 🙄 said by a friend.
There’s no need to tell anyone before hand or run it past anyone.
Dd2 was always Alice, but we never told anyone.

Definitely don't tell anyone in advance.

The fact that both the baby's parents love the name is the most important thing.

My god-daughter named her baby something quite unusual, never heard of it before as a first name. There was a momentary. ??? from me (thankfully not face to face) then I thought it sounds like it SHOULD be a name, and now it's the most normal name in the world to us

To be honest I had this for one of mine, and it isn't even anywhere near what I would call an unusual name. My MIL and my DM both said they didn't like it, in fact my DM screwed up her fave and repeated the name with distaste. She was swiftly told to mind her own business.

Name your baby what you want to. Good idea not to tell anyone until baby is here, it's harder for people to make comments when the baby has arrived and the decision has already been made. And remember sometimes people, even family members, are just rude and like to voice their opinion even when not asked for!

Dont tell ANYONE until the baby is born and you have given the name. It is a lot harder for people to say negatives about a name once it has been given.

I'm dying to know what it is now 😂

Agree with others, keep it quiet cos if you don't you'll get negative opinions I'm sure ! Which might put you off and if you both really love it you should just go for it .

@cargghhh

We chose a very rare almost unheard of name for our daughter. It's such a beautiful name! I told my family I was considering it... My clearly wants sure, and my Dad made a joke about how it sounded like something else (the name of a brand in Australia so not an issue and really obscure). Anyway because people were being funny about it I almost chose something else.

Luckily my sister said to me one day "why don't you go back to X? I really loved that name!" and then my DP's Nan said the same thing! So we did. And now my Mum and Dad think it's the prettiest name ever and that nothing else would suit her

My clearly? I meant to say "My Mum clearly wasn't sure"

If you and your partner love the name then it's the perfect name. Don't worry about what anyone thinks.

We didn't tell anyone until our babies were born to avoid just this thing. We told everyone the sexes of our babies, just to get them excited. When we had our B/G twins, my batshit mother was thrilled at the prospect of the boy and kept announcing that she had a dream that we had called him "Jamie". (Ew!). We told her that we had chosen a name, and Jamie was never going to happen, so then she toddled off and had blue towels embroidered with Jamie in bright yellow kept telling us how much she had spent on them. When the twins were born and we announced what his ACTUAL name was, the first thing she said was "What about the towels???" It was like she thought she could guilt-trip us to keep the name she had chosen. (She used those towels at her house every time we went there - and probably called him by that name as well, but it wasn't very often and it never stuck!)

Absolutely do not tell anyone, announce the name when bub is born.
I experienced this last pregnancy and so many lovely possible names were thrown out because of people's reactions.

My friend has two children with frankly hideous names but she clearly loves them so it's up to her. Everyone thinks their own child has a great man. Not everyone will agree but that's life.

Once your baby arrives the name you choose will soon be 'their' name and people won't be able to imagine anything else. My pregnant DD is allowing suggestions for names but has banned us from saying that we don't like any names in case it's one they are considering. So you could try that with your ruder relatives, say that you only want to hear positive comments?

Stick with the name you both love and ignore everyone else, they will get used to it.

When Ds was born (Conrad) my mothers reaction was " thats HORRIBLE" she was horrified.. FFW 13 years and she told me " I always liked the name Conrad it is such a good strong name".. The association for her had chanced and now Conrad was her loved grandson.

People get used to it.