Parents names or using wider family?

[RosiePosies]

Soooo we've gone for Lyra as a first name. It has a lot of meaning for us in relation to my other half's dad who recently passed away.

We'd like to honour our mums as well in her middle name/s, however they are Mary and Jane and I'm just not a fan of them together. We have been through our family tree, on my partners mums side we found 'Elise' and on my mums side there is 'Virginie'.

So our daughter would be Lyra Elise Virginie.

My worry is - is this too convoluted a way of including our mums? Also, is it too much of a mouthful?

The alternative is we give her my middle name, which is Rose, but I'm the flip side I'm a bit worried that's quite boring.

I should add she has a double barrelled surname 🤦🏻‍♀️

I think Lyra Elise Virginie is a beautiful name.

I think the names themselves are fine, but it is about as close to naming them after your mums as using my name.

If your surnames are very long too, dc will weep when it comes to official form filling.

@Nnnnnineteen that was my worry

I think they are all nice names but it is a bit distant to actually be honouring your mums. I suppose it depends how important that is to you but if you really want to I’d probably use their actual names. Although if you have more children you might want to spread them out so it’s a difficult one!

Thankyou @ParadiseLaundry

Why not, rather than point blank copying a name in your family, ask your mum to help pick a middle name?

She will probably feel very privileged to be asked x

Elise and Virginie are lovely names, but I don't see using them as honouring your mums, you are just using the name of someone related to them that you think sounds nice with Lyra.
I would use Mary Jane if you want to honour your mums or just give her her own name.

Totally agree with Pepsi. I have a friend who felt she had to name her daughter after her and her DH’s mothers, and she hates the names. Both are very of their time.

Just use both your mums names! Not keen on Elise Virginie.

Lyra Mary Jane is actually lovely.

Lyra Elise Virginie is a bot of a mouthful, even though the names themselves are lovely.

If you don't like Mary Jane, then I would get your mum to help you choose a name

Lyra Mary Jane is lovely.

It depends whether you want to honour your mums or use family names - else virginie does not honor your mums in my opinion.
Could you ask your mums whether there is anyone in the family they would like including?
Or if you don't like Mary Jane together, what about Lyra Jane Marie?

Two mn's with a db surname is too much imho- we will be in the same position, but I think five names is just too much.

As you have already honoured your DP's family with her first name, I would pick a name which reflects your side as the only mn. It's not necessary to cite both DMums in the name, especially when you'd potentially be choosing names which probably don't mean much to them personally.

Lyra is an absolutely gorgeous name!
I'd ask your mums what they think... I tried to give my daughter my mums name as her middle name and when I told my mum about it she hated the idea because she told me shed always hated her name!! So she helped me pick a middle name instead. Why dont you ask them what their favourite names are instead of using their actual names? That way you can pick something they love to honour them.

I think if you’ve picked it off a family tree rather than it being the names of family members you know and love, it’s not particularly honouring your mums.

I wouldn’t use your middle name, it’s a bit boring to do that and Rose is a very popular middle name.

Why not just choose a middle name that you love and that goes well with Lyra?

I do really like Lyra though!

We went for two middle names and used our father's. They're not the greatest names and one being very Polish might be an issue.

Our thinking was that middle names are largely irrelevant in day to day life so it doesn't matter if you don't love the name if it serves another purpose

Thanks everyone.

Good idea about asking my mum to help, and I think you're right two middle names is too much with a db surname!

My other worry with using family tree names is that you have no idea if they were even particularly nice people! We could be naming our child after someone terrible 😂

What about Maja as a middle name? Half of Mary and half of Jane.

But it might be a bit of a tongue-twister with the first name!

Or Jary?

Difference being that Maja is a real girls name whereas Jary is clearly not but nice try

It was just me being joky. I would go with Mary Jane or Jane Mary.

I really like Lyra Mary Jane.