No idea what to do :|

[AmberMai]

Basically when I first got pregnant me and my husband sat down and we're talking about names. I suggested Frances (I have lived it since I was about 14) and he agreed that if it's a girl we would call it Frances. In the 5 or 6 months since this conversation we have found out we're having a baby girl and he has fallen in love with the name. However I have fallen in love with the name Juliet. Which he hates. I have suggested the name he really dislikes it and I have also suggested Juliet Frances. He hates it. He won't even allow Juliet as a middle name. We haven't argued over it or anything but the due date is creeping up and I'm getting more stressed every single time I think about it at the thought I'm not going to 'be in love' with my first borns name.
Any suggestions on what to do in this situation? I feel like I've suggested everything, he just doesn't like it.

I hope your baby is healthy and all goes well.
You agreed on Frances. That’s a lovely name. He doesn’t like Juliet so forget it and stick with frances already agreed. Not a thing to get stressed over.

If he hates Juilet then you need to let that one go. Decide if you are happy with Frances or if you need to think of something new. Does he have any suggestions? What do you think of them?

He doesn’t like it - you have tried, so you need to forget it if you can. Sorry.

Oh and children definitely grow into there names, you’ll love your baby and their name will become them.

I have to answer this as I I explicably fell in love with Juliet while pregnant with dd. Dh hated it and wouldn't let me use it. We had decided that it wasn't fair to use a name one of us hated. We went back to our original choice that I wasn't as keen on (Not Frances ). I now love the name we chose and don't miss Juliet at all.

Keep it on the short list and decide after dd is here. Keep thinking of a couple more names if possible too. Maybe a short list of 3-4 so it's not just yours vs dp's?

When I looked at dc1 and dc2 too I swapped my top preferences. Neither of them 'looked' like our original top choice.

Wait until she's born and see what he says then.
Alternatively, choose a third different name.
A Frances I went to school with got called 'Franny Fanny'.

@BendingSpoons

He likes loads of names, surprising I thought he'd be laid back about it but when we had the discussion he had about a million suggestions on the 'love it' list and grace was one of them so I think I might have a conversation later on about whether we like Frances or Grace better. It's gonna take some convincing though as he really loves Frances now 😂

You definitely need to let Juliet go if he doesn't like it.

Honestly , if you've loved Frances since you were a teenager and he loves it too , I think maybe you're just having a last minute panick about finding something else. I think you might regret going with something else in a few years.

If he hates Juliet in my opinion that takes it off the table completely.

You have a name youve loved since you were a teenager, which your dh also loves - that's pretty rare! Frances seems like such an obvious choice!

Stop thinking about it and stop stressing about it. Wait until she's born and then decide. But my bet is that she'll be a Frances and you'll love her and her name.

All of mine I wanted names in pregnancy I now dislike, changed my mind every time in the delivery room

Keep a short list and make final decision after the birth of baby. I would keep Frances, Grace and Juliet on that list. I have know of husbands who completely change their mind when the child is born. He may not, but if it's your list you can keep it there for review later.

It's his baby too. Why is he not allowed to love the name you choose? Don't be selfish, pick a name you both like.

@Cariadxx
If you read properly. He did choose a name. The only thing I'm saying is the fact I'm devastated that he doesn't like the name Juliet. The fact that I'll not be able to name my daughter that. He suggested grace we both liked frances. It is already about compromise. He's got names that I don't like but he won't stop talking about. It's both ways.

With DS1 i changed my mind in the delivery room and I'm so glad i did.

With DS2 i was completely torn between 2 names and I tried out both for a while after he was born. We left it about 5.5 weeks to register him.

There's no rush, i felt a little embarrassed with DS2 when HVs, nurses etc asked what his name was and i just said - it's still a toss up.

Maybe you won't stop going on about Juliet? Ask him to stop going on about names you don't like and you'll stop harping on about names he doesn't like. Simple.

Similar to the poster above, I fell hard for Juliet. My husband rejected it in the strongest terms. He more or less said he would prefer any other name.
I still don't know what the problem was really. That's a shame you can't use it as a middle name though.

Agree that you probably have to let Juliet go. Frances is gorgeous. But if you've gone off it, then perhaps there is another name, other than Juliet, that is waiting for you to stumble upon and fall in love with.

Either one of you has the power to veto, I'm afraid. Besides, Juliet dies at 14 from suicide, doesn't she? I realise that's just a play but it's not a great name association in my book.