Middle or No Middle Names

[thismeansnothing]

So due DD2 in a few weeks and we are struggling with a first name as it is never mind a middle name as well.

DD1 has a middle name (DHs grandmas name) and as is the case with middle names, I forget she has it half the time, it never gets used/referred to, but DD knows her name is first, middle and surname.

So would it be odd to not give DD2 a middle name? I don't want to pick something for the hell of it but will she grow up and be like, hang on why has my sister got a middle name and I don't?

Tiredness and hormones are not helping my thinking on the matter so what do you wise MNers think.

My dd has one middle name and my son two. I don't think it matters too much but personally I think a middle name is nice.

Do you know the sex is definitely a girl? So you can explore any female name that fits well with first and surname and initials.

Pick the first name first. I loved naming my dd. Ds is adopted so we did not choose his first name but now I love it.

You could explore all female relatives on both sides of the family and include good friends too for inspiration for middle name. I'd look at family surnamss too for inspiration.

But I think choose first name first. Are you willing to share some of your ideas?

Well we're as sure as we can be that it's a girl. (I know there's potential for it to be wrong) but 20 week anomoloy said girl. Then private 4D at 28 week said confidentley girl too.

So are you willing to share some thoughts?

I'm a big fan of C!

Cassia, Cassidy, and Cadence

This is an interesting article...

www.verywellfamily.com/top-1000-baby-girl-names-2757832

I especially like Evelyn, Harper, and Grace; and maybe Avery or Scarlett.

How exciting to have a new person to name!

I think it'd be odd for one to have a middle name and not the other. |Also nice for her to have a choice later on if she's not keen on her name. For what it's worth, I don't have a middle name and I always felt shortchanged, not helped by the fact that my name has dated badly, though my parents thought it was lovely.

I think it’s nice to have an official alternative if you don’t like your first name for some reason.

daisypond you could add a middle name by deedpole.

Well, while you may have difficulty remembering your daughter's middle name, she apparently has no problem remembering so it obviously means something to her. I have to admit I find it quite odd that a parent wouldn't be able to remember their child's middle name. I do think you have to give one if your other child has one, otherwise it looks like you just couldn't be bothered for the second child. It's not that hard to think of a name, surely?

italiangreyhound - true, I know. Probably explains why I'm on the baby names board as well.

I got confirmed in the C of E as an adult and you can add a middle name then too! But I did not, as I already have one.

OP I do agree with others, your dd not having a middle name when her older sister does is not good really. I even felt vaguely guilty ds had four names (FMMS) and dd only had three (FMS) but that was out of my hands.

I love my middle name, ever since I met a woman who was cool and trendy and had that name.

I was given one name. Since I was 10 I have wanted a middle name. Last year for my 50th I gave myself the family middle name. Please give your child more than one.

Oh kokeshi don't take it quite so literally. Of course I know she has a middle name! I was More trying to get across that it Just never gets used day to day (I can't tell you when I last had to use it) !!!!

Sorry I've not posted first names were thinking of as we've only got 1-2 and I don't have my heart set on them as I don't love them. Think this kid will be nameless for a bit 🤣

But Me and my DSis have middle names. I don't like mine. Don't use it, don't really know why I have it. There is no 'family' name to use and if DH hasn't wanted to honour his grandma DD wouldn't have had a middle name anyway.

But looks like consensus is to use one if one sibling does. So, best get me thinking cap on 🤣

Come on, give us some clues, to your choices.

I’d pick another family name. There must be one!

If not, simple classics like Elizabeth, Rose, Grace, Jane, Margaret go with tons of first names, which is why most of them are a bit overdone as middles. But if you can find one you like that flows well, maybe go with something like that?

No Italian. The thread was about the merits/rational do we don't we do middle names rather than name ideas

I have three middle names, and my DTs have two. They’re (imho) pretty pointless, and the only use I’ve found for them is in telling them off!

First name was pretty easy to pick for my DD (picked before she was even conceived!), DS was harder to decide upon, but when I found out his gender at the scan and was asked “does baby have a name?” I blurted his name out, and that was that.

Middle names were picked so both kids have the same amount of syllables - it took ages to decide, and they were only registered a couple of days before the end of the time limit.

I don't love my middle name but I like the reasoning behind it (there was no one my parents wanted to honour so my middle name is the name of the church they married in).
I'm a fan of a middle name so I say go for it (if there's no one you want to honour then you could go with a meaningful place, or even emotion - my sister's middle name is Joy).

thismeansnothing
"No Italian. The thread was about the merits/rational do we don't we do middle names rather than name ideas"

Your choice of course.

My DD’s first name is very rare but she has 2 top 100 middle names if she wa ta go by either of them later on.
I always thought of 2 middles as obnoxious but ended up doing it myself! One name is after my sister but different spelling, the other is what I would’ve called a second DS but I realised during pregnancy I was one and done with children!

I don't have a middle name and always wanted one. I gave my DSs one middle name, wish I'd given them two!

My dh doesn't have a middle name his sister does, he was absolutely certain our children were going to have middle names. They both have family names as middle names too so if your dd has dh grandmas name then can't you find another family name? Female version of a male relative possibly?

How old is dd1? Could she come up with a list of suggestions just don't promise her you'll use one until you see if you like any of them might be a nice way to include her

My siblings and I don't have a middle name and I never missed it. Didn't bother me at all. DH has THREE.

We gave DS a middle name, as I always wanted a potential DD to have my late mum's name as a middle name. Now we are expecting DS2, very likely our last DC and have to come up with a middle name! Wish we hadn't bothered now haha. But I do think if one has one the other should too.

I don't think it would be an issue two of my nieces have middle names and one doesn't. My mum doesn't have a middle name and her brother does. I don't think it ever been an issue and in fact it hadn't even occurred to me until I read this.

I have a middle name and would prefer not to have one! It was only given to me as my parents thought that was what they were supposed to do. I never use it, don’t like it and would get it removed if it wasn’t such an effort. 😆 So I’m inclined to say don’t bother!
How interesting that people who dont have one wanted one....
Would be a bit odd if you’d given a middle name to one child and not the next though.

I think your DC2 will be miffed later to find they’d been shortchanged. The first thought that comes to mind when I see someone has only one name is that how strange it is that the parents couldn’t be bothered when there are so many lovely names.
I gave my DC 3 names because I’ve always liked how 3 initials and the surname look — sort of balanced and pleasing aesthetically.
I think when you’ve picked the first name you’ll finireltivelyeasy to pick the middle name as that goes more on how it sounds.

I think if one kid has a middle name, I'd give the other one too.