How long is too long? Want to avoid nicknames

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Two of my favourite girls names are Elizabeth and Valentina - however I am not keen on their short versions (Lizzie / Beth and Val / Tina). Is four syllables too long?

My dd had a 3 sylabul name. Never shortened. I know an Elizabeth who is 50/50 Liz.

Valentina is less likely to be shortened - as there are just so many nicknames for Elizabeth and so few people with that name go with the full version for daily use. Both lovely names though!

You can’t control shortenings. If you don’t like them, don’t use the name.

Most names of more than one syllable get shortened at some point.
You can decide on a nn you like, but you can't force it.
A name of one syllable will get lengthened.
It's life.
Both your names are 4 syllables so will almost certainly get shortened.
I would probably end up saying Elizabeth as Lizbeth.

You could shorten Valentina to V. That's quite cool.

I know a German Valentina who goes by her full name. Lovely name!

My youngest has a lovely 2 syllable simple to pronounce name. I call her B or Boo.

Pressed post too soon. The point is shortenings can't be helped, on anything. Just pick a name you love.

Eliza is nice. I like Elise too.

I had a friend called Kay. Her father wanted a name that couldn’t be shortened. He then proceeded to call her KP.

BertrandRussell. Took the words from my mouth or my key board, rather.
Most names even such as Ivy can become Iv, Ives.
A few names are to shorten but could be lengthend.
Clara. Erin. Elle. Jo. Beth. Anne. Rose
Sarah. Faye

I really wouldn’t use those names if you don’t like the shortened versions

People will shorten anything, at least where I live, even Ian gets shortened to E! I’ve never asked my work colleagues to shorten my name but most call me the first syllable ( not even a nice sound!) I don’t object but I think it’s automatic so plenty would probably do it regardless.

Plus your child may decide she wants a short version. My mums parents gave all their kids long names and refused to shorten them, all of them used a short form from childhood onwards.

There’s always a chance she’ll go by her full name, especially if you’ve always called her that. They’re both beautiful names.

In my experience, all names are shortened or in fact, lengthened. So if you don’t like the traditional shortening then pick another and try and guide the diminutive. Call Elizabeth, Betsy or Beth or Valentina, Vee-In doing this you can at least hope they don’t identy themselves as a Liz or a Val when school nicknames inevitably take place.

DD has a four syllable name with a few shortening options. We’ve never used any so no one else does either.

My cousin also has a four syllable name and even now as an adult it’s never been shortened.

However every Jack I’ve ever known has been called JackJack 🤷‍♀️

Both of those names will inevitably be shortened. You cannot control it. I am an Elizabeth and people assume that I'm called Liz/Lizzy. She may well choose to shorten her name too, as I have.