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Baby name - change it or lump it

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Nkmama15 · 05/01/2019 20:02

I loved the sound of my daughters name but suddenly I became very aware others didn’t share this love. People reaction shouldn’t bother me , but it does. I wanted an old fashioned Italian name but I think I went too old lady and the Italians seem to think I’ve named my beauty happy baby an ugly name. I feel sad I named her with a ugly name when she is so beautiful.
I wish I had stuck with the originally name we picked and not changed at last minute. Reason I didn’t go with the original name was I was worried about both my daughters with names beginning with V.

I keep telling myself every day that’s her name and to get over it but when I see the originally name anywhere my heart sinks a little...

How can I get over this sinking feeling of regret. I don’t even like calling her by her name.My baby is now 6 months.

Thanks Confused

P.s.
We names her Marina but I think she should have been Valentina...just feel as I didn’t stick to it as that’s the name I referred to when I was pregnant.

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Biscusting · 05/01/2019 20:05

Nope it’s a beautiful name! Don’t change it!

MollyHuaCha · 05/01/2019 20:10

Marina is lovely. Was high up there on my list.

Ellasshitholekitchenpjpiigp · 05/01/2019 20:14

It's a beautiful name and sounds lovely.

CrossedToTheDarkSide · 05/01/2019 20:15

I think it’s gorgeous and doesn’t sound ugly!!

GemmeFatale · 05/01/2019 20:18

Try calling her Valentina for a week. If it makes you happier change it

CloserIAm2Fine · 05/01/2019 20:19

Marina is lovely! Much nicer than Valentina imo, it feels more classic and less frilly

If you and DP are really unhappy then consider changing it, but don’t do it because of other people’s opinions. There will always be people who don’t like the name you choose.

Cbeebiesrehab · 05/01/2019 20:19

Marina is lovely-look up Marina and the Diamonds. She’s a very ‘cool’ song artist who is most certainly not ugly. I think Marina is much more unusual than Valentina and lends itself to much nicer diminutives too-you don’t want a baby Val or a baby Tina!! If I had a Marina I would call her Marry/Merry for short. I think it’s beautiful. FWIW I think babies take a while to grow into their names.

Peachbubble · 05/01/2019 20:23

Love Marina, much more than Valentina

DwayneDibbly · 05/01/2019 20:24

Another vote for Marina over Valentina, though both are pretty IMO.

JaretsGirlfren · 05/01/2019 20:25

I adore Marina

ba03 · 05/01/2019 20:25

Marina is beautiful! I love it

Torsz · 05/01/2019 20:26

I love marina too ☺️🥰

Ribbonsonabox · 05/01/2019 20:28

Marina is a really beautiful name... reminds me of a fairy story book I had as a child where the little mermaid was called Marina..... it does sound old fashioned but bear in mind that all those names are coming back in fashion now.. so although they will sound old lady like to older people actually in your daughter's year at school it will sound very trendy and young! Look at the top 100 girls names for last year.. it's all Edith and Ivy, Agnes and Pearl.. so it wont be old lady at all!

Ikeameatballs · 05/01/2019 20:28

They are both lovely names, possibly I prefer the full name of Valentina to Marina BUT I don’t like Val or Tina, which I think are very likely nicknames for Valentina.

So Marina wins!

SophieSellerman · 05/01/2019 20:31

Oh, OP. The main thing to think about is that both names are lovely. If I had to choose, I'd choose Valentina (not least as one of my DSs is Valentine) - but either is gorgeous. And if you do decide to change your DD's name to Valentina, that's fine too.

Ipanema01 · 05/01/2019 20:48

I think Marina is beautiful, however if you have a sinking feeling and don’t want to say it it isn’t too late to change it. Go with your gut x

Princesspeachy0 · 05/01/2019 20:56

I think both names are beautiful but I'm not keen on Val as a NN and I'm sure that's what people will call her.

TheRedFox · 05/01/2019 21:03

I really like Marina and much prefer it to Valentina.

Don't change it!

LynetteScavo · 05/01/2019 21:11

I much prefer Marina.
But I'm not Italian.

Jaz32 · 05/01/2019 21:11

Both are nice enough. I prefer Valentina myself but agree I don’t like Val! Try calling her Valentina for a week and see how you feel before officially changing it, incase you then regret changing it.

I regret my dds name, I let family and popularity of the name I loved put me off. 14 months on I still regret not sticking with my original choice and my oh wouldn’t agree to changing it and of course she knows her name now anyway! Although it’s a nice name, it wasn’t THE name for me and I still don’t think it suits her and wish I’d stuck to my choice or waited before registering her and now I’ve just got to stick with it but for you, your baby is much younger so it’s easier to change it sooner rather than later x

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Nkmama15 · 05/01/2019 22:47

Thank you all.im going to have a think. We call her Mimi as a NN and thing is she actually already responds to that...!
I had the same feeling with my older , English people don’t really like bit Italian love. I wish maybe didn’t gone with something ‘normal’!

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DramaAlpaca · 05/01/2019 22:50

Marina with the nn Mimi is really lovely. Your choice of course, but honestly it's beautiful.

Shadow1234 · 05/01/2019 23:25

Also prefer Marina to Valentina - its a very pretty name.

CarrieBlu · 05/01/2019 23:28

Marina is SO much nicer than Valentina! I might put it on our list if we have a Dc3 actually...

Astronica · 05/01/2019 23:44

I much prefer Marina nn Mimi - just lovely! Do you live in the UK? Marina will work better than Valentina I think.

But, it is ok to change if you think it's the right thing - but try out calling her Valentina for a while before you officially change.