Being put off a name

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We have a boy and girl name picked out for baby due in May.

I really love the girls name, but my sister has recently started dating a man, and when I told her the names we were set on she said ‘oh that’s new mans daughters name’

It’s really put me off using it.

Dp said I’m being silly and we should still use it as they could break up soon, but they could also potentially stay together and we’d have 2 children in the family with the same name.

I’m really conflicted - wwyd?

Use the name anyway. I know of cousins with the same name and it isn't confusing.

Use it

Use it. I know plenty of families with a daughter and DIL, both called Sarah. At least your daughter won't have the same surname as her potential step-cousin.

use it.

Just use it... My cousin and her 3 SILs all have the same name, it’s just one of these things!

I would still use it. My uncle, aunt and mum are all called Chris, and my sister and sister in law are both Sarah. It can get a little confusing at times but it really doesn't matter!

I wouldn’t.

Use it. Why not? I can never see this as an issue.

Your sister's boyfriend's daughter is quite a distant and tenuous link, plus she doesn't own the rights to the name.

My mum and her cousin both had baby girls within ten days of each other back in 1969. Both have the same name. It was never an issue.

It depends how common the name is. If it’s a popular name and you may expect another child in their future class/year group to have the same name then use it. If it’s a much rarer name and quite distinctive then i’d probably avoid using it

Unless it is a very rare/unusual name I'd definitely use it.

This is a child I am presuming you have never met, they will be step - cousins at the absolute closest and even then you don't know how involved she will be with your family.

The name is Elspeth.

We’re a very tight knit family and if their relationship gets serious then him and his daughter will obviously be a huge part of it. I’d feel a bit rubbish if it was the other way round so I think I’m going to find another name.

Pick another name but decide when she's born.
Congratulations and best wishes.

Thank you so much 😊

There's lots of multiple names in our family and it's honestly never an issue. If it's your favourite I'd use it. You'll probably regret it if not.

I'd wait 4 months and see how their relationship was developing and make a decision then. I'd have a few back up names incase Elsbeth doesn't suit the baby when it's born.