AIBU? Changing my baby's name...

[kenbon]

Oh boy where do I start. Can't believe I am saying this, but I hate the name we gave DD and whenever someone says it, I physically jump a bit and squirm. She's 11 weeks and I've been feeling like this since shortly after she was born. It's a horrid feeling. I was never too sure on the name to begin with but DH suggested it and I thought "I'll warm up to it just because DH loves it" and it did the opposite! Luckily DH is understanding, we got it sorted, she now has a name we BOTH love. That's the long story short- it's been a rough road with this name. Which is actually a nice popular name of all things but it just got slowly ruined! I don't want to say the name as it is perfect for some girls and I don't mean any offence, just not good for our DD.

I am so bloody embarrassed over this though, I feel so daft about it. Don't know what I'm trying to get from this post, perhaps stories of people you've known who have done this? And could you please be honest with me, would you forget this if I was a friend or family member or would it forever be at the back of your mind?

Just wish we'd have gotten it right the first time. Argh.

Just change it if you feel so strongly. I have a family member who changed her DS name about 2 months after he was born. It's not the first thing I think of when I think of them, more of an "oh yeah, remember his name was different" then I instantly forget again.
He's in his 20s now and definitely suits his name.

Change it. It will be a five minute wonder and then she will just become new name and no one will care

You've changed the name then? Stop worrying and enjoy your baby.

I changed my sons name TWICE. Dont worry about it. No one cares other then yourself, everyone gets over it after the initial amusement x

OP, there are near weekly threads on this forum about people wanting to change their baby's name. It's more common than you'd think. Everyone will get used to the new one and in no time it'll be a distant memory. Change it.

Honestly if you’ve already changed it then I would stop wasting time thinking about it and enjoy your baby! What anyone else thinks is none of your business and to be honest they’ve probably put it out of their minds already! Life’s too short to keep calling your child a name you squirm about so you’ve definitely done the right thing, it’s not like she’s two, she’s still so brand new. Congrats on the baby, enjoy her and her new name 😀

Change it!

Thanks ladies. Haven't told family yet, just renamed her and been calling her that round the house. I think we may say something at Christmas to family. Not sure how everyone will take it! But I suppose I shouldn't worry, you are right. Just hope everyone forgets

You've changed your baby's name twice, now you want to change it again. No leave it as it is.

Just to say re telling your family, I read on here once about one mum who changed her baby’s name and instead of telling everyone in person including family and fearing she would get everyone’s two pennies worth that way (which would confuse and worry her), she decided to send out an email to everyone first saying she knows they’ll all think she’s bonkers but this is what happened, this is the new name of the baby, that it was official from that point and not to be debated and thanks for understanding etc.. Apparently it worked very well and helped her face people more confidently with the new name change. They all understood a lot better that way and sent lovely responses back. Might be an approach for you to consider if it helped you? But ultimately as long as you’re happy with the name change then really that is all that matters. She’s your baby and you have to be comfortable with her name.

With my second child I changed his name about 2 minutes before going into the registrars office I knew what we'd been calling him so far wasn’t his name.

With my third child we made the appointment for the very last day we were allowed to register him in case it happened again, but stucknwith the name we’d chosen

I changed my babies name when she was about 2 months old, I couldn't get used to her original name and it bothered me to no end! I just told everyone I'd changed it and that was it they had to get to used to it.
Now no one mentions I even did it and i'm sooo glad I did. I don't even think anyone really remembers/cares or if they do they don't bring it up!
I was really anxious about telling people I'd changed it but once I did I realised no one really cared as much as I thought they would, you're probably worrying over nothing.