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AIBU?

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Picknickers · 19/12/2018 23:17

We have a 9 month old dd. DH told his family our chosen name and they hated it. He bottled it and our dd was called something else. Today I found out I'm pregnant again and he has said to save any arguments between us, if a girl we can call her by the name he rejected. Although I still love the name I don't want to. It doesn't feel right somehow. It is very early days but he thinks we can sort it now and be done with it. DHs family will still hate it though. (MIL doesnt much like alternate name we chose for DD but as her suggestion was Muriel I dont care) What do you think? Use the original name or find a name especially for this baby? No probs if a boy! Hope this makes sense.

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CarrieBlu · 19/12/2018 23:20

Personally I would try and find a different name that you love. It seems a bit strange to use it again. Although I would never have allowed my DP to change our babies names based on what his family said either.

Cazastrophe · 20/12/2018 00:21

What was the name and what is your daughter’s name now?

Shadow1234 · 20/12/2018 03:36

I think it depends on wether you love the name or not. If you have doubts, then it probably isnt 'the one'. Never discuss names with family members, (I learnt this lesson after having my first child).
Agree with you on Muriel - dont think it's due a comeback just yet!!

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 20/12/2018 07:30

If you don't want to choose the name that's fine but don't not do it because of MIL. If you still love it then I would. What's the name?

Btw Muriel is rank.

Belindabauer · 20/12/2018 07:37

A different name.

Cosmoa · 20/12/2018 08:37

I'm 99% sure I'll be using the name I originally wanted for my DD on my next DD (if I ever have another that is..)

Crimbobimbo · 20/12/2018 08:38

I can't believe your husband listened to his mother about the name.

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Picknickers · 20/12/2018 23:21

We'd agreed not to tell anyone and he blurted it out at a family bbq. It's a marmite name anyway...I posted about it during 1st pregnancy and it was either loved or hated on mn! It's not to do with whether MIL likes it or not more that it feels like DDs cast off. I honestly don't think I can use it.

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SnowyPaws5 · 20/12/2018 23:29

What is the name OP?

I would find your new DD a new name, just for her. Imagine growing up as your DD2 and learning that her name was originally her sister's and you changed it because the whole family hated it.

jessstan2 · 21/12/2018 06:17

A new name for a new baby. I'm sure you'll choose well. Better than Muriel :-) (or Marmite, come to that),

MattMagnolia · 21/12/2018 18:15

I thought you were suggesting AIBU for a name. Pronounced Aye- Boo. I quite like it. Better than Muriel anyway.

bridgetreilly · 21/12/2018 20:07

It's not a cast off, that's ridiculous. If you still love it, use it.

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Picknickers · 21/12/2018 22:19

Thank you all for the replies. He's now said I can choose whatever I like so I'll be back to bother you after the first scan!

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hiphopchick · 19/09/2019 11:01

@Picknickers FGS your in-laws sound vile!

How DARE they veto your chosen name for your baby? Hmm

And Muriel? Oh FFS. NO. Just NO.

Your DH needs to grow a spine. No WAY would my DH have let his parents have a say on the names of our kids.

Sparklypurpleunicornsaremyfav · 19/09/2019 12:00

Just really want to know the name... 😂
Maybe use it as a middle name if you feel its not quite right to use as new baby's name, providing you still love it

ilovemykids5 · 19/09/2019 17:06

If you really love the name still, use it!

BumblyBeeBum · 19/09/2019 21:21

Pretty sure this baby has a name now as this post is a zombie thread from DECEMBER 2018!

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