Not sure about my daughter’s name!

[piggie88]

My daughter is 4 months old and I’m still not sure about her name. I don’t dislike it, it just doesn’t feel right when I say it or hear someone else say it.
Just wondering really if anyone else felt like this if they grew into their name and you now can’t imagine them being called anything else. I’m worried I’m going to be unsure forever!

I had this for a while. My husband really liked it and slowly sold it to me and even started calling him it as soon as he was born so I didn't change my mind. I did like it but really wasn't sure on the shortened version. 2 years on and I couldn't pick a better name for him. I use the full name 50/50 but its perfect for him now. I think once they get out of the little baby stage and really show their personality then they become their name.

@piggie88 I think this is really common. When babies are so small they are really just snugglers tiny creatures that to me often just seem un nameable.

They just don't have that 'personality' yet to go with a name often and a big part of it is that I found one hardly ever says their name as it just always 'can you pass the nappy for the baby' or 'oh no the babies woken up'

So when you actually have to tell someone it's name it can sound really odd. I always thought 'but this is snugler! not ....(insert name here)..'

Suddenly they start babling and crawling and become human basically, and thats when you start using the name more 'dont touch that...' ect.

Honestly they just grow into the names, unless it really is a name you were never keen on and got strong armed into using. I'm sure by about 9 months when shes much more of a little person it'l feel right for her

Thank you both, that’s what I was thinking, once she starts being her own little person she’ll hopefully grow into her name.
That’s exactly what I do at the moment, just call her ‘the baby’ most of the time.

I really like her name, it was one of two that we finally narrowed it down to, I just can’t stop thinking we should have chosen a different name but I have no idea what.
She didn’t have a name for two weeks and in the end my husband chose out of the two because I couldn’t decide and felt pressured from friends and family to name her. Keep thinking I should have thought more about it but at the time it was all I thought about.

Start calling her by her name, or make a cute nn so you get used to it.
It's probably lovely and you don't want to find you're still calling her The Baby when she's 22.

I could have written your post word for word
What worries me is I didn't feel this with my first baby
His name was just perfect
But my daughters name feels strange
Eventho I adore the name??
It just feels weird
So she's 'baby girl' of 'the baby'
My partner says he feels the same but there is literally no other name I can imagine calling her!
Hoping she grows into it!

I felt the same about my daughters name and now I can't imagine her with a different name!

I called DD a very random nickname for the first few months as DH had picked her name, although I liked it I just couldn’t get used to it as it wasn’t the name I always imagined my little girl to be called.

Now she’s 7 months old I couldn’t imagine her being called anything else, she is 100% her name ❤️

Me too @mumisalliam, I never felt like this with my older daughter. Her name has been my favourite girls name for years and it’s always suited her perfectly. I think maybe that was why it was so difficult the second time because I’d already used my favourite name and, even though there’s a lot of names I like, there wasn’t one that stood out as the one.

So weird isn’t it?! Hopefully they will both grow into their names soon!

I also feel like this! Used a name both me and dp have always liked but for some reason it's started to sound a bit odd every time I say it. Baby is 5 months old! I'm hoping I get used to it again soon as was very happy with it initially. I think maybe this is more common than people realise as I've read a few similar threads online

It took a while for my daughter to grow into her name.

You need to find a nick name that suits her

I called both my children "the baby" for months. It took ages for their names to feel right, despite them having been named at about 20 weeks.

They are 11 and 9 now and I love their names - no regrets at all.

Felt the same way about DD's name and changed it. I had begun to hate it though and I would even struggle to remember it sometimes I disliked it so much we changed it and I absolutely love the 'new' name! It still feels a bit awkward to say but now in a way of "I cant imagine this adult name on a baby yet" vs "this doesn't feel right AT ALL".

I loved dd's name, but she was so tiny and it seemed to wrong. I couldn't call her her name and any nicknames seemed contrived e.g. If her name had been Isabella, i went through Bella, izzy, issa, belle, etc. Nothing was right. She ended up being a totally random nickname which stuck for MONTHS , literally until she was about a year old, when suddenly her name just fit.

Sometimes I feel that way. My dd is 11 and we all love her name but it can be spelled many different ways and as she has additional needs and we come in touch with a lot of health professionals so I am always correcting people. I joke that a should have called her sue.

I am really frustrated it took me forever to get use to her name as it was the only name her dad liked. An adult called her a pet name that can be used in a mean way by kids. Am back to feeling Super anxious and shes 10 months so I dont have much time to change it..my partner continues saying no to anything else I suggest am upset, sad and dont known what to do! Should I just change it to a name I prefer or keep it ?
I mean it is a nice name I just don't know if is the right name.

Do you wish you picked the other name of the 2 finalists?
If not and you haven't got your heart set on another name, I'd stick with the current one. Otherwise you might well change it and find yourself worrying if the first name was nicer