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Would it be wrong...

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Emmafh3 · 17/10/2018 22:04

To give the same middle name to a sister?
It's not particularly a family name, it's my middle name and a nod to my mum (passed away when I was 11, but I hate her middle and first names so this was as close as I could get)
That, and both dh and I actually like it.
He has boys from two different relationships who also have his name as a middle name, and if it turns out to be a boy, it would be almost odd to not use it as his middle name too.
I don't want them growing up thinking oh, mum had no imagination and wanted to be just like my sister, I'm never good enough. Or
oh, well why aren't I special enough to have the same middle name as my brothers...

Or am I being stupid?
Would you use the same middle names? (there would be two middle names, so it's not like it's only their first that differentiates between them)

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SallyWD · 17/10/2018 22:06

I don't see a problem with it. I knew twin boys who both had their father's name as a middle name. I thought it was a nice idea.

GreenTulips · 17/10/2018 22:08

What does it matter? Nobody knows or reminders middle names anyway so what others think is irrelevant

Enko · 17/10/2018 22:47

If 2 middlenames then I think it is fine..

DramaAlpaca · 17/10/2018 23:45

With two middle names it would be fine, especially if they weren't in the same order so one has the name second & the other has it as their third name.

IzzyGrey · 18/10/2018 05:11

I don't like it but I don't know why. I also definitely wouldn't do it. But again, can't put my finger on why

HJL2506 · 18/10/2018 08:10

I don't see anything wrong with it, I know someone who has given her middle name to her 2 daughters. I personally wouldn't do it but that's just my choice. And if you use 2 middle names I don't see the problem.

Doodelle · 18/10/2018 10:11

Me and my siblings have 2 middle names each.. the boys with my dad's name as one of them and us girls with our mums name as one. I think it's a sweet idea and i never felt my parents had no imagination (perhaps more the opposite as id never known anyone else to have done this), and we still had our first middle name that was unique to us.

However, I did get fed up when filling in forms etc. as a kid. The extra name didn't always fit and it always seemed like unnecessary extra effort. Though that could just be because I'm lazy.

anatol · 18/10/2018 13:15

I dont see anything wrong with it. It's actually a bit of a tradition in my family that the siblings of each generation tend to share a meaningful middle name.

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Emmafh3 · 18/10/2018 14:32

@doodelle, I'm already fed up with filling out my daughters name on forms and she's only two! she'll have to learn to write small to fit all 28 letters on...

Glad that it's not going to be an issue with the next then!
I love the idea of them having a new "tradition" if they chose to keep it going and that they have something of me and my mum with them of this one turns out to be a girl too.

Thanks for the input everybody!

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ZebraKid71 · 18/10/2018 19:32

I think it's a lovely idea.

My sisters, brother and cousins all share the same middle name - think alexandra/Alexander. My daughter has it now as one of her middle names. It is a nice link between us all, especially with my siblngs whom I don't share a surname with anymore since I got married.

mummabearfourbabybears · 18/10/2018 19:49

Long story but two of my three boys have the same middle name. They do have another middle name each which is different. It's fine.

Icklepup · 18/10/2018 19:53

It's fine!

confusedmomm · 18/10/2018 20:42

Actually in a lot of Eastern Europe that's what happens. Middle name of kids is first name of father. So many kids have same middle names if in same family.
I don't think anything wrong w that

bigeyedbug · 18/10/2018 20:54

I know siblings that share a middle name - I think it's a lovely idea, my dcs also share names with their cousins which is nice as they have different surnames it gives them a family link

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 18/10/2018 20:55

Absolutely fine imo. I know someone that has one DD with the same first name as the middle name as her other DD. She just loved the name

It has a nice sentiment too for you OP so I would say do it.

SumAndSubstance · 19/10/2018 19:10

I think it’s fine. I know a couple of pairs of siblings with the same middle name. What’s weirder is I once taught a pair of siblings whose names were reversed so boy 1 was e.g. Thomas Sampson Jones and boy 2 was Sampson Thomas Jones. That was weird.

GemmeFatale · 21/10/2018 18:49

I hope to use my maiden name as a middle name for our children. It’s obviously a surname but could be a less common boys name too (think Jackson, Cooper, etc).

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