Wondering about Baby Surname

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Hi, so am not married , and I and my 'partner' don't seem to have any future plans. I would say I do not entirely know what his pans are about being a father or a present on.
I am about to have my baby, and he already assumes the baby would have his surname.
I am very confused if it's best she has mine, or if I should give her his surname just so he doesn't run away. Want my daughter to have her father in her life. Please help

Definitely your name

if I should give her his surname just so he doesn't run away.

Definitely not! Do not include his name anywhere on the bc.

Your name. My mum (parents unmarried) went to register me alone back in the 80s, tried to use my dad’s but couldn’t without him there, so he went the next time and they used his. He buggered off not long after and I’ve never had anything to do with him.

I unofficially used my mum’s surname at school but I had have a signed letter from a court in the 90s to get a passport in my mum’s name.... this caused raised eyebrows when me and DH went to get married as my mum couldn’t find the letter from the court and I had a different name on my BC and passport. She always wishes she’d just registered me with her name the first time she went.

Moral of the story, it can be a huge faff. Register the baby yourself, I hope everything goes ok for you

Thanks a lot , I really see light in the majority of the advice. He surely will be present at the birth certificate signing. But my DC will have my surname. When we get married later that can then be adjusted. My surname is long already double barrel with his is plenty hassle; so I wouldn't.

'When we get married later'
Is that on the cards?

would say I do not entirely know what his pans are about being a father

The surname of your child is the least of your worries.

You are about to have a child and you don't know what his plans are? Jesus.

Yes, give your child your surname, because if you don't you will be back here in a few weeks asking how to change it.

Oh, and maybe communicate with your partner?

Sorry I missed the 'when we get married'

Are you living in a fantasy world?

Your OP says you don't have any future plans and you don't even know his plans for being a father, now you are getting married?

If you take him to register the birth, the baby will have his surname. I simply can not see it panning out any other way.

I and my 'partner' don't seem to have any future plans.

Why are you talking about “when you marry then? Did you mean “if”?

DD has her dads last name. We are no longer together ( split when she was 6 months) and I am now married to my DH so have a different last name. I wish I’d given her my surname rather than his but I’m glad she has the same surname as someone rather than having given her my maiden name because she’d be the only insertsurname if I had.

I'm not married to my partner and am currently pregnant, we're going to be double - barrelling our names - which to be fair i've pushed for because if we ever get married then i'd want to keep my name anyway so this works for future plans as well

“I’m glad she has the same surname as someone rather than having given her my maiden name because she’d be the only insertsurname if I had.”

You do know it’s not compulsory to change your name when you marry?

Hope to get married someday . Oh yes I meant if we do get married

Hi, so am not married , and I and my 'partner' don't seem to have any future plans. I would say I do not entirely know what his pans are about being a father or a present on.

I'm sorry OP but nothing you said here suggests marriage may happen one day. Quite the opposite.

or if I should give her his surname just so he doesn't run away

WTF?!

You should give your name.