Persuading your OH

[Daffodil2018]

There is a particular baby name I love for our little girl, who is due in January. It's a pretty, classic name that fits really well with our surname and has a cute abbreviation.

The problem is that my OH doesn't like it. No real reason, he "just doesn't like it".

Do I just need to suck it up and compromise or do you think there is any way I can convince him over time? Anyone managed to do this successfully?

I respect his right to veto and I won't be heartbroken if we go with something else, I just can't get it out of my head!

It's a two-person decision, and if he doesn't like it, he doesn't like it.

That said, I often find my initial reactions to names are very different to how I feel after I sit with them for a while (in both directions!). So maybe leave it and come back to it in a month or two. If he still doesn't like it, then that's that.

I agree with pp - it's a joint decision, and some names each of you simply won't like. However keep searching, there'll be one eventually.

Me and my OH said no to each other's first choice and yet the name we've settled on is basically a short version of my first choice I haven't pointed this out to him.

Good luck!

I think you have to accept his feelings, unless he is being unreasonable (insisting on another name, or offering no suggestions). Don't give up all hope, DD1 has a name that DP didn't love initially. I gave up on the name, then he reintroduced it just before she was born.

If you want to fall out of love with it, post the name here and ask opinions!

You have to accept and move on- I was your DH, I gave In and have had name regret ever since. It’s a horrid feeling.

With DD2 we were in a similar situation. Name I loved by DH didn't. I wore him down...

Of course you need to accept his views. Is that even a question

I was your DH, I gave In and have had name regret ever since. It’s a horrid feeling.

This

I will say, DH now loves our DD's name and couldn't imagine her being called anything else.

Thanks all!

Nice one Sirmione16

Sunflower - perhaps you missed the last two lines of my post.

He hates being badgered but I guess he might come round, so it sounds like patience is the name of the game - and of course, keeping looking for something else we both love.

It's tricky because we have completely different taste in baby names (think Ross and Rachel when they are trying to name baby Emma) but there are one or two on the list so far and I am finding lots more inspiration on MN. In the meantime I need to stop mentally calling the baby by the name in my head!

I have a long list of names I never got to use, because DH didn't like them, at least not enough to use anyway. New names were added to it with each of our six children.

There were a handful of names in particular, that I really loved, but I never once tried to wear my husband down or anything like that. My children are his children too, and I just would not have done that to him.

The names I really loved, I still love, but I also love the names we chose for our children together. In fact I probably love them more, because the fact we chose them together.