Same name as SIL

[ohnogruffalo]

Myself and sister in law both due next year.... first grandchildren in the family. However we have found out that we both like the same boys name 😬 except I would use it as a middle and she wants it as a first. I don't think it matters too much but other family seem to think it's odd? Is it weird? Should one of us change our minds?

If you have to ask the question, it might be.

I think it's fine to use anything as a middle name. Would be a bit odd if both had it as a first name, though not impossible.

People often use middle names to honour another family member. So if your kid is born second, might look like you are naming them after their cousin.

My baby is due a few months before SIL. I could potentially spell it differently but it still pronounced the same. It is kind of a family name on my side too x

Well if you're naming them after Great Uncle Herbert, let everyone know that and crack on.

I think it’s fine

If it’s a middle name it’s a non issue IMO. You’re honouring your family too. If SIL has an issue with it she can pick something else but I don’t see why you should have to change your mind because they think it’s odd. If it was both first names I could understand but how often are middle names even brought up?

Thankyou for our replies... I'm fine about it and so is SIL but some of the rest of the family seem to think it's odd so just wondered general views! I'm sure we'll stick with as like some of you have said middle names are rarely used anyway x

All dh family’s women (and me oddly) have the same middle name

I don’t think it’s odd

I can't see any problem. And if the 2 sets of parents don't see a problem I wouldn't spend any time thinking about it!

Totally fine

Fine.

Not odd at all.

Are you both having boys?

We have two Thomas's in the family. My Auntie and her first cousin both married men who had always wanted to call their sons Thomas. So they both did. They're really close and we see them all the time! One is Tom and the other is Thomas...

I never took my partners last name but we gave our daughter my middle name (my gran's first name) and his last name. Too many syllables for a double barelled name. Planning to do the same with any subsequent children. Don't think it's weird if it's a family name. My brother and cousin both have the same middle name after a Great Uncle of ours.

If your both ok with it I'd go for it

After the first couple of months no-one remembers middle names anyway, until they get married and have to say then out loud.

It's really common for family members to have the same middle names, too - they also want to remember Auntie Hilda and Grandpa Eric

Crack on, no problem that I can see

It's fine, ones a first name and ones a middle name. Can't see the issue at all xx

Call your baby whatever you like OP.
There is nothing weird about names, only other people's opinions.

Middle names are rarely used, other than on documents, so i
cant see it being an issue. I would go for it.

I think it's a non-issue! Go ahead and use the name you want