Use same name as my niece's middle name?

[MalachisMum1]

My niece's middle name is Alexandra and I've always loved it. My niece is 12 and never uses her middle name. It's on her birth certificate and that's about it. Would it be ok to use? I don't speak to my sister so don't really care what she thinks tbh x

I would. Especially if you don't even speak to your sister

That's my initial thought but worried other family members may find it strange or it make me look unimaginative x

My DD2 has the same first name as my niece has as a middle name although a different spelling (Rebecca and Rebekah). It has never been an issue.

My brother gave his eldest son the same name as my DS's middle name. I thought it was a bit odd at first but I soon got used to it. I actually think they hadn't realised as there's a big age gap between the cousins and they'd forgotten what my DS's middle name is.

In short, I think it's fine to use Alexandra. It's a really beautiful name.

People use the same first name as cousins plenty of times, middle name is absolutely not an issue!

I think it’s fine.

It's fine OP.

Aw Im soo pleased at the responses so far 😁 I have went through dozens of other names but really love Alexandra nn. Lexi x

My niece and daughter have the same middle name (and surname!). Not caused a problem here.

Yes its fine.

My aunt named her DD the same as my sister's middle name (Jane) back in the early 2000s.

All my mum said was "Oh, that's DD's middle name- yes, it's lovely!" - end of conversation.

Of course.
Most people won't even know what her middle name is.

Personally, I wouldn’t. May come of a bit unimaginative. I’d think of a name with the same ‘flow’ instead such as Victoria, Annabella Gabriella...

My middle name is the same as my much younger cousin’s name. No-one cares or realises except us and, bizarrely, I think it’s made us closer.

I think it's fine. However, my SIL told DH that he couldn't use a name that we were considering for our newborn Dd because it was in her baby name list. She wasn't even pregnant at the time. That was weird.

We went ahead and used it as a middle name, and she called her dd the same name 2 years later when she eventually had a daughter.

It's fine now, although I do still snigger to myself about her weird behaviour.

I middle named my first daughter Charlotte (after my grandma). My sister had a little girl 5 years later and named her daughter Charlotte as a first name. Never asked me or had a conversation with me about her daughters name (apart from "this is her name") and, to be honest, until this thread, ive never thought twice about it. My daughter never uses her middle name and it was a nod of respect to my grandma from me. Sister did the same. :)

I'm very much of the school of - even though no-one owns a name, it really isn't hard to be considerate and avoid. But even I think this is fine!

I think it's completely fine.

I think it’s absolutely fine, my middle name is my cousin’s first name and my 4 year old’s middle name is my other cousin’s 1 year old’s first name. Nobody has ever really commented on it, I did say “oh that’s a lovely name, we have it for dd’s middle name” but that’s it.

That’s fine I think. My son has same middle name as his older cousin (our dad’s name) and I would have used it for a first name if I’d wanted. I wouldn’t use the same first name.

I have three sets of cousins with the same names, all on the same side of the family - that is, they are all cousins of each other too!

If you don’t speak to your sister, just do it!!

I really like DHs nephews middle name but DH said I couldn't use it for DS

My name is the same as my older cousin's middle name. I didn't know until she got married when I was about 21 and the vicar used her full name!

Absolutely fine

My daughters name is the same as 2 of my cousins middle names and her middle name is the same as my aunt and cousins middle names. They're both family names so not surprising!