Due soon and dont want to regret name.

[MummaBear24]

I'm due my second child in 8 weeks but we are stuck between 2 names.

Don't need help deciding on a name but wondered if anybody else had a few names for their child and found it difficult to pick one once baby is here? Did anybody regret the name they chose?

My husband is pretty laid back and loves the couple we have so ultimately that's not a lot of help for me! Done the wrong thing and told a couple of people a few of our choices and seems people try to influence.

But would like to know if the name really will come to us once bubba is here?

We had a shortlist, which we then narrowed down to our favourite 2 and waited until she was born to see which one suited her, so we managed to name her before everyone got the call she had arrived.
I know what you mean about people influencing though, people seem genuinely interested in our name choices this time round but when I've mentioned ones I like people have odd reactions to them. Find it quite rude actually.

We used to refer to the baby by our chosen name before he was born. Then we learned if it felt natural or not, which it did and it suited him when he was born. We also wrote it out a lot to see if it felt right. You could try that? What name do you naturally go to say? Although I'm one of 5 and my mum was always convinced of a name before we were born then changed them last minute! So one may click for you.

Thank you for your replies. I've loved one of the names for over 10 years and it just so happens my husband loves this name too. It is not in the top 100 but is a "normal", old fashioned name.
The other name I've loved for about 5 years which is in the top 100 (although really far down). My husband if he had to choose prefers the older name. This name we have called baby but I can't help thinking equally about the other name.
I've met one other baby with the top 109 name in a play grouk recently and one at a park. This doesn't bother me though. We have a son already with an older name. I'm
Not too bothered about them matching it is simply not being able to choose.
One friend said one name was an old mans name (forgetting our eldest has one too) and then sort if realised what she said. I just don't want to go with one name and forever be thinking about the other as this is how I feel now when I begin to prefer one. (Which changes all the time).
This has been going on the whole pregnancy and they are names we've loved for years. So tough.

What are the two options?

We had a shortlist before dd was born and she spent her first 24 hours nameless but dp and I both found ourselves thinking of her as one of the names. Luckily both the same one! So the decision made itself.

Could you not use both? first n middle then try tehm out - I use my middle name as my mum didnt like my first name (dad registered me and wasnt bothered with order - she was!) its quite common..
we were down to 2 names when ds born - 1 really didnt suit him so we picked teh other after a few days...although I'm still not sure it was the right decision (hes 14 now!) the names I think of are ones we discarded quite early in the process!

I think once you've named the baby, they become their name iyswim. I can't imagine my DS1 being any other name than the one we chose, even though in hindsight I hadn't realised how popular it was and probably would have made a different choice if I'd known. He is his name, his name is him. I can't separate the two now.

Dd1 we had a shortlist of 2, then when she arrived the midwife asked if we had a name. DH and I said the same one on our shortlist.
Dd2 I had a name I loved from the start and eventually talked DH around. It's an "old lady" name. Never met another baby with the same name. But I love it and never had a bad word said about it. Although we never told people the names before the birth, I think people are less negative once the name has a baby attached to it!

We probably will use one as a first name and one as a middle name to be fair.

averythinline that's what I'm worried about. I'm worried about picking one and then months/years later wondering if we done the right thing.

I do get though that onc he's here it's likely that we won't be able to imagine him as anything else. It's just that at this stage these names are 50-50 and I don't have a preference.

I think I should have just not said anything to any friends. As some say one matches and one clashes or too similar etc.

We had 2 names we couldn't decide between for DC2. Once he was born I found it even harder to choose (but I get very emotional post delivery!) and as I liked them both I left the final choice to DH. Then I massively regretted it, looked into changing his name etc. However, once he was a few months old with more of a personality I couldn't imagine him being anything else, he's made it his own. Then DC3 was also a boy so we used the other name anyway, even though DH had gone off it a bit when we were discussing.

Not sure if that's much help, but I think seeing as you love both names, ultimately you won't regret your choice.

See I would have saved one for a third child. I'd love a third child whether that he a boy or a girl. This child is our second son. The thing is I'd want to use both names (one as first and one as middle) incase the third is a daughter.

But it sounds perfect that you I'd another boy and got to use the other name you loved.

I too have kept my name choice between me and my OH this time IRL however I have tested it on this site, reason being I wanted to know how they sounded from an outsiders perspective. Possibly if one name is too similar or clashes with your other sons name that is something to consider? I know they aren’t always said together but may get confusing when calling them for dinner etc.

Do the toss a coin thing, name A is heads etc, if you feel an immediate flash of 'yes!' when the coin lands you have the right name if it's an 'oh' then use the other one.
We had a shortlist of 3 for my dd, but I knew which one it was going to be and I still love it 26 years later. DD has had wobbles with both ds1 and ds2. With ds1, I think it was a sudden rush of blood to the head at aboout 5.5 months because she annouced she was changing his name to Thomas - a name she hadn't even considered before - and she changed her mind back by the next day. With ds2 she has wavered a bit more because family members reacted negatively to the name, especially my df who kept calling him a completely different name until my dm told him off and my dd snapped at him on the same day, now he usually manages to avoid calling him anything. I wasn't that keen on the name either at first and much preferred her 2nd choice but ds2 suits his name now and I couldn't imagine him as anything else.
Both names were low down in the top 100 when she chose them but both are gaining in popularity, with the abbreviated version of DS1's name hovering around the top 10 and ds2's is in the top 50.

Honestly, I had DC1’s name picked out from the beginning but I chopped and changed it 1000000x throughout pregnancy so nobody knew which one I would end up plucking for. In the end I did choose the first name I loved and it suits him well. With DC3 we didn’t find out the sex and I was convinced she was a boy so we had a boys name we loved and only really one vague girls name because I’d heard it used on a popular BBC programme , she got called that.

You will know what name is right when you meet them.