Surnames...?

[MariaMadita]

The father's? The mother's? Both?
DH and I talked about it yesterday and I just wondered what other people think / what other people ultimately decided?

Tia :)

So you’re married but didn’t take his name? Traditionally the baby has mum’s name, just in times past if Mum was married she would have taken dad’s name so it would be dad’s name as well, if unmarried still mum’s name. Now people think dad’s name is automatic if not married but it really isn’t, I know many women who regret giving their baby dads name when they’re later barely around and they are the ones being the main carer. So use your name.

Kirsten

Yes, I didn't take his name but I'd be willing to add it to mine after our wedding (we've been legally married for quite some time, btw.)

Or DH could tack my name onto his. Or take my name.

We could give DC both our names, just my name or just DH's name.

I feel like a double-barrelled surname might be a "bit" long. But that's the option DH favours...

Which is the nicer?
I’m not married but my dc have my partners surname, we decided this as mine is ‘Bacon’ and I got bullied for it at school, so I didnt want my dc to go through what I did. (I don’t mind it now and wouldn’t/couldn’t change it due to my profession)

Nicer?

Well, obviously mine
DH's surname is Scottish. Mine is Italian. (Ends in o)

I really like first names that are a bit more Italian / Latin... Which is why DH wants to hyphenate the name / he thinks his surname with an Italian first name is a bit weird.

But that child would end up with a very long name.

I took my DH as his was nicer tbh literally the only reason lol

For DC, could you make one surname a middle name so it doesn't end up too long?

Haha I suppose ‘nicer’ doesn’t normally come into it for those with a normal name.

Could they be amalgamated into one?

We were going to just go with partners surname but when we went to register him she mentioned once my surname is gone it can't ever be added again 😳

This made me umm and ah for ages in the room, and eventually decided to use a double-barrelled surname.

It's only been a couple of weeks but I kind of regret it as it's so long, I only really want to use dp's surname as it sounds nicer and I feel I have to explain its double-barrelled but just using one of the names.

The registrar explained that when the parents get married you can re register and you don't have to pay a fee, so thinking when we do get married I'll just take my name off.

Go with what you think sounds the best!

My DH has a first name for a surname (I.e. James, Williams, Andrews type of name) so the kids took my very nice surname and all have DH's surname as a 2nd middle name.

TBF it wouldn't have mattered what surname DH has... We agreed DC would have my surname.

I never took exH’s surname when we married and my DC have both surnames. This baby will also be having both mine and DP’s surnames. I’d never want to lose my surname and link to my DC.

My dc have the fathers last name. We are together but not married.
My surname is hardly ever pronounced or spelt correctly by others whereas his surname is spelt as it sounds.

We went with both names for DD (I kept mine when we married too). My surname is foreign and rarely pronounced or spelt correctly, dhs is a British profession type name. Dh and I may double barrel ours one day but maybe not.

I wonder whether DH would be ok with using his or my name as a 2nd middle name...?

He really wants to hyphenate our names but idk.

What would you think of a name like this (we haven't picked first names either, btw. So these are just examples...):

Gloria Severina SurSurname-Surnamio?
Or Matteo Severin SurSurname-Surnamio?

I would like to give the LO 3 given names but I feel like even 2 names are a lot with both our surnames...

Anna Flora Severina SurSurname-Surnamio might be a bit much.

Bump

Gloria Severina SurSurname-Surnamio?
Or Matteo Severin SurSurname-Surnamio?

Too long?

Thanks :)