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Name change at 3 months

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toomanybirds · 04/06/2018 10:54

Is it too late? There was a name I always loved and thought we would probably use as, while it was never DH's absolute favourite, he said he liked it. However, due to our location we had to name our daughter before leaving the hospital and at the last minute, literally while standing holding registration papers, DH admits he's not that keen on my no. 1 name. We were in a huge rush, I was a hormonal mess and felt so blindsided that I let him pick another name from our shortlist.

I like the name but haven't really got used to it and I still call her "the baby". DH knows this, feels bad about how it all panned out, and is happy for me to change it to my original choice. It's a massive hassle (We're not in the UK) though and I'm now doubting my original choice and wondering if it's worth changing it if I like her current name, just not quite enough to get rid of the niggly feeling it's a mistake. I'm very indecisive by nature and terrified I will regret the change even more than leaving it as is.

I've now been obsessing over this for three months and I still don't know what to do. The current name has grown on me, but not enough to stop me from being wistful for my original choice. Changing it is getting harder as time passes, but I'm still dithering. (This is probably our last baby).

Would you change it? Have you changed your baby's name and regretted the change? Or do you wish you'd had the courage to change it but didn't? Arg. TIA.

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Flamingosnbears · 04/06/2018 10:56

If your hearts in it and you've got his full support change it ASAP to minimise confusion and frustration.

KarmaStar · 04/06/2018 11:00

Two choices OP ,either get going with the name change,or call her by your favourite name as a family nickname.we all had one as kids and dad still refers to it sometimes!
Make a decision and stick to it.Flowers

bobstersmum · 04/06/2018 11:02

My mum named me officially one name. Then later decided she liked another variation of it. So called me that from then on. But didn't officially change it. So I was known by the new name all through school, until I came to get a passport. Nearly missed my holiday because I had to mess about so much getting proof of id in my original name, was an absolute nightmare. If you've any doubts just officially change the baby's name. Or just put it to rest and accept the name you've given.

MikeUniformMike · 04/06/2018 11:40

Change it officially now.

FizzyGreenWater · 04/06/2018 11:55

Yes yes yes change it.

Add the favourite original name to the front of the existing name, so the name she has now moves to first middle name place.

In a year it will be history!

trueblueari · 11/06/2018 19:03

Yes! Change it and put the name she has now as a middle name.

DD is 4 and I wish I'd done it. That niggly feeling doesn't go away. I still sometimes look at her and think she'd have suited the name I liked better.

WeaselsRising · 11/06/2018 19:09

DH vetoed our last 2 DC's names at the last minute. Both times we took ages to come up with something and they've never felt quite right, unlike the eldest 3.

If it doesn't feel right after 3 months change it while you've got the chance.

Rustymum89 · 22/06/2018 14:29

Have you made a decision? I am considering changing my DS name he's 4 months. I worry what family will think and also worry I'll feel the new name doesn't suit him either. I'm driving my fiancé up the wall with it.

Snowysky20009 · 22/06/2018 16:37

Honestly, if you are not happy change it now. Better now, then spending a life time regretting it.

I have 3 friends who were named one name, but then changed to another, one who was named one name but is called her middle name. One who's daughter was called a name for the first 3 months then changed and another who was called a name for 5 weeks before changing just before being registered (and now mum wishes she kept the first name!!).

Go with what makes you happy!

wheezing · 22/06/2018 16:57

Can you give it a go, (both) call her by the new name for two weeks and if at the end it feels right change it but if not leave it?

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