When you can't agree!

[Louellah]

Has anyone had the dilemma of not being able to agree because your tastes are SO different? (His names are terrible IMO but who's to say it's not a matter of personal taste)

I like (girls); Billie, Cassia, Valentina, (boys); Cassius, Idris, Solomon

DP like (girls); no suggestions just wont agree with mine, (boys); Thor, Max, Ajaxx

What do I do with this? What's the middle ground? And Thor? Really? Help!!

Sadly DP is a stubborn git and would laugh at me if I suggested this

So you laugh right back and be equally stubborn. Can’t you stand up to him? You’re the one risking your life to give birth.

I think it’s better to agree, but if you don’t like any of his suggestions he will have to compromise.

I'm starting to think he just wants to think of a name himself!

Is he like this about other things?

@TatianaLarina I think to say I'm risking my life is a little far fetched. It's going to hurt but the risk of me dying due to pregnancy or childbirth is minuscule.

I just think that it should be a joint decision. I don't think that me carrying the baby gives me the final say. I think I'm the one that's privileged as I get to experience pregnancy and it's the most amazing feeling

@TatianaLarina no he's not. He's lovely. I'm not worried about his attitude I think he just finds this difficult, as many men do - he wants to be involved and not be left out of decision making. I think that's ok!

I’m not intending to scare a pregnant lady but two of my friends nearly died in childbirth, and many women suffer minor damage. Carrying a child is no small thing.

I agree it should be a joint decision, but at the moment he’s trying to make it his decision.

@TatianaLarina blimey, that's unlucky! The chances of death in the UK = 8.2 in every 100,000 births. Sorry for your friends!

Would finding out the sex help? Make him feel like its more real with the added bonus of cutting down on 50% of the decision making.

@SexyManatee we want a surprise

Good luck with deciding on 2 names then, rather you than me!

Could you go for Scandinavian-type names or maybe ones that tie in with the Norse myths? Magnus has been suggested and I think that's a great choice. Freya or Eira or Sunna for a girl? Instead of Thor, how about Tor, which I think is the Swedish spelling, but possibly easier to get away with in the UK? I like Torin, as has been suggested.

@daisypond Sunna! I love it!! Definitely going to suggest. Thank you

@SexyManatee I wouldn't sacrifice that kinda surprise for anything, even if it does make name choosing doubly as hard!

🤣🤣🤣 fair enough 🤣🤣

DH keeps suggesting marvel/DC names too, so far we've had Bruce, Wayne, Robin, Grayson (he likes batman) Peter, Parker, Wade, and so many others I've lost count, he's started pushing it and suggesting things like Tron, Groot and Hulk. I started off saying no, now I just ignore him.

Mine is abnormally obsessed with names. I get bombarded all day with texts now he knows it's a girl. We've got loads of time so it's driving me a bit potty tbh. My sympathies OP. I think my blokes choices are cheap too 😂

Ajax is a brand of washing up liquid in the US (in case that helps you convince DH it’s a terrible name). I do like Max though. And for what it’s worth I think your names are lovely except for Billie. Good luck finding a compromise!

Me and my Husband have different tastes in girl names. For boys names he just doesn't seem to like ANY names, he just says no to the names I put forward but can't put forward any of his own.
Anyway, we found out we are having a boy.
It's been 15 weeks since we found out, and since then I've been looking at names a few times a week, making shortlists of names I'd consider and running them past Husband. I've kept doing this over and over until finally we found a name that we both liked and would be happy to use. FINALLY we have agreed on a name.
I'd say the best thing to do is to get your Husband involved and keep researching names. Eventually you'll find one you both like.

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Such a shame he doesn't like your name 😭 definitely try for Cassius or Cassia during labour!

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Genuinely starting to think it's a pride thing and he wants to have names DC himself

Aha.

Let me guess, even though he is 'DP' not 'DH' - the surname is going to be his? Yes?

I suggest you remind him that:

a. you're not married so he cannot even register the baby - only you can.

b. tradition dictates that the baby has your surname.

If he would like to suggest departing from this tradition and asking if you might consider allowing his surname to be used, then perhaps he needs to wind his neck in and stop behaving as if he is in charge of the whole naming process. Because he really is not!

I'd suggest you kindly offering to compromise and allow him to choose the surname and you choose the first name :)

Have you considered Logan? I'm sure that has a D.C. connection but not far out there or the name of a toilet cleaner... as far as I know!

We don't share a surname so I said DD could have his surname if I could choose the first and middle. He vetoed a few, including my lifelong favourite, but I found two he didn't mind and then just after she was born, I popped another in there on divine inspiration.

I know a little boy called Odin, after a marvel character. It's cute!