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Feel I’ve chosen the wrong name 😩

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Baker10 · 03/05/2018 21:59

We registered our son today, my partner and children liked Harvey , I liked Lewis , I didn’t know what to do, partner said for me to choose, I ended up going with Harvey to make everyone else happy and I regretted it as soon as the certificates started being printed. I was told I can change the name within 12 months, the original name would stay on the birth certificate aswell as the new one. My partners Mum said she’s going to call him little man instead of Harvey. What would you all do in this situation? Change it or stick with it and get used to it?

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Dergadgeghead · 04/05/2018 11:59

Someone I knew at school was known as first name by one parent and middle name by the other as they couldn't agree! Very confusing...

Allthatglittersisgold · 04/05/2018 12:03

Yeh I know a few people who go by their midldle name. Your heart will tell you soon enough what name suits him best. Forget MIL. She had her chance to name a baby already x

sonnyboo · 04/05/2018 12:49

I prefer Harvey to Lewis and agree that your MIL is very rude.

blairsey · 04/05/2018 13:05

Maybe see how you feel over the next couple weeks, and what suits him more. If you still feel like he should be named Lewis, discuss it with your partner and get his name changed. If you feel bad as your partner liked the name Harvey you can always simply change his name to Lewis Harvey.
Don't worry too much about it, you have plenty of time to decide what you want to do.

For the record, I think Harvey and Lewis are both lovely names. Love the name Leo too.

PotTheRed · 04/05/2018 13:31

If your your partners mother insists on calling your son 'little man' start calling her 'big woman'

Sugarpiehoneyeye · 04/05/2018 13:50

Well then, I would limit my time with that woman.
He has a name, a lovely name, chosen by his daddy.
Your DH needs to have a serious word with her, and make her see sense.

MrsJayy · 04/05/2018 13:59

Harvey lewis well there you go you can try the names out see which one you know. I know a couple of people who go by their middle name.

joystir59 · 04/05/2018 17:16

My current partner and my exh both use their middle names instead of their first names

LillianGish · 04/05/2018 17:27

Harvey's a great name and your baby will make it his own. Forget your MIL's comments about "giving in" - someone had to and I think it says a lot about your relationship (in a good way) that you went for a compromise when you had a free rein.

AmazingPostVoices · 04/05/2018 17:32

Your partner’s Mum is very very rude. It’s not her decision, she had her turn if naming her own baby.

Ignore her, she’ll give in an call him by his name eventually.

For what it’s worth I think Harvey is a much better name than Lewis.

Fully twenty percent of the boy in my son’s Year group are called Lewis.

I don’t know any Harveys.

blueskyinmarch · 04/05/2018 17:33

Harvey is great. My DH and DD1 named my DD2 and i really wasn't keen on the name they chose but 20 years later i can't imagine her being anything else.

feelinggoodinspring · 04/05/2018 20:09

I have a Harvey I love the fact that it's not over used.

Allthatglittersisgold · 04/05/2018 20:14

Just adding. Do you watch the TV show suits? Harvey in suits = yum. Louis (pronounced Lewis) not quite so yum!

muffyduffster · 04/05/2018 20:14

I love the name Harvey. One of my favourite people is called it and it's on our list of potential boy names.

deptfordgirl · 04/05/2018 20:14

Harvey is gorgeous. But don't let it stress you out. If you want to change, you still have time to talk it over with your partner and choose another.

lifechangesforever · 04/05/2018 20:17

I'd be telling her that she calls him by his name or she doesn't see him at all. Tell DH to have a conversation with her about her comment pronto and nip it in the bud.

Since when did parents get a say in the name of their grandchildren?!

Harvey is a lovely name, much nicer then Lewis IMO.

Afternooncatnap · 04/05/2018 20:18

Ignore relatives they can be real dicks.

My dad said he wouldn't use my sons name. He now does, has got used to it and likes it.

I was really unsure on my sons name for ages but dh was really set on it.

I got used to it and use nicknames now anyway. It's only a name.

LastOneDancing · 04/05/2018 20:22

Harvey and Lewis are both great names! Are you calling him Harvey at the minute & does it feel weird?

(Leo btw is the best name ever)

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Baker10 · 05/05/2018 07:13

My partner started calling him Harv and makes jokes about it e.g shall we get a pizza tonight? Shall we go Haaaarves which has put me off a bit, it doesn’t really feel natural when I say it now 🙄 Leo was the original name we were going to call him but my partner wanted to put down Leonardo and call him Leo for short

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felicitythemangyfox · 05/05/2018 07:27

If you're not happy then personally I'd say change it ASAP. And make the decision between you and you husband only, forget what the siblings, in-laws etc think, they'll get used to whatever you choose.

Personally I like Lewis better (seems more of a classic) but that opinions of MNers don't matter either - just you and baby's dad!

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